Well, clearly we can't necessarily be attracted to the person's physical appearance unless they've used an actual photo of themselves, so just going by "personality," or the personality they project online, I would say for me they are the same. I like someone with a good sense of humor who can laugh at him/her self, who doesn't appear to be snobbish or know-it-all.
Many men like to believe that by being "weird" or "different" or flippant they are somehow being more "real" or true to themselves. When actually the development of good social skills is more what makes the difference and makes them more effective.
I'm not knocking them. Most of my female friends are quite nerdy. I love nerdy people of either gender.
But I'm not at all trying to be weird or different, that's who I am. The most interesting people are the people who can connect with my personality and I with theirs, without having to alter it.
This post was edited by Benedict Arnold at April 3, 2017 10:19 AM MDT
The two are one of the same, but being online makes the interaction for me a hell of a lot easier. It also makes me a hell of a lot bolder. The downside is not being there to see the other person's reaction when I bust a move.