As far as I can recall it hasn't happened in the past 60 years.
There was one occasion, back in the 1980s, when i became kind of descriptive when talking to my neighbour but the insults were appropriate rather than mindless. We sorted out the problem.
In seventh grade i learnt the word 'bastard' and came home from school, at home a quarrel took place between me and my brother, in anger I shouted the newly learnt word at him.....I was thrashed and not given food for 8 hours.....from then up till now not a swear word escaped my mouth....( I'm writing it so...)
This post was edited by Veena.K at April 10, 2017 4:24 AM MDT
I was being flippant Hun.. I agree with your parents, it's how you learn.. This may sound strange... I do believe you have to know and understand the rules so you know when they can be broken or bent...
Me and my siblings are too goody goody Di,...no one drinks, smokes and in society's eyes 'we are too boring', old fashioned and orthodox,...anyways that's how things are....;))
Nothing wrong with any of those things... But change is always possible... It's called growth... Scary sometimes, true.. But always available no matter your age or upbringing :)
As long as you are happy with your life most of the time, what society thinks doesn't matter.
We must live the values in our hearts and if it isn't in our hearts, even if it is family tradition, it will break our spirit.
I have always been attracted to the "goody goody" ladies and then after a while with me, they are torn because there was life B.W. and life A.W. in which they discovered many new possibilities and were encouraged to think freely and be creative...but then there is the family that doesn't accept the teaching of This Wey and eventually all ends, but a woman is left more free and more courageous than before...so not all is lost in the grand scheme.
My last girlfriend had everything she needed with her family except emotional support. I don't know how parents raise children without saying "I love you" to them and how they belittle their child's appearance and everything she does. I know in Indian that it's a man's world but here, it's equally our world and women are to be treated with love, respect and gratitude. Money will not solve all problems. We need to uplift one another.
I know there are many problems here in this country, especially in marriage, but I cannot come to grips with the idea of a woman never being independent, straight from parents control to husband's control. I know this is in varying degrees and I cannot change a school of thought that is probably at least 2,000 years old but I do like to see women independent because I grew up with a very wealthy and controlling dad but he had no interest in providing us anything not essential for survival. So then when he died, just before I was thirteen... My mom was at a loss. She could not manage money. We went from having three houses and 350 acres, along with livestock and all that comes along with a farm to my mother dying while living in a tiny one bedroom apartment about 25 years after my dad died, but the land, the money and everything was gone long before her death. I helped my mother a lot with money but she never could control the spending and was left struggling until death.
My point is that women must be independent or they will end up being property of their husband. This still goes on in America as well, it isn't just a foreign problem. Women marry for money either by choice or by family pressure. My mother maybe did the same thing, my parents married young but even at 19, my dad had already bought some property and had a small farm and was starting to build his fortune that would soon me squandered. I believe a good man would want his wife to be able to take care of herself in the event he dies or becomes too ill to be the breadwinner. Loving women are God's gift to man and the man should seek to please his wife as she pleases him. It isn't a one way street.
I've seen the oppression of women in many countries, where the police or husband can beat his wife in public and it is just accepted. I cannot imagine a crowd gathered around watching a woman get beat and no one steps up to defend her. It is atrocious, not just of the man beating her but of all who let it happen. They are afraid of what?
This post was edited by weylon.com at April 10, 2017 4:28 AM MDT
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