Nostalgia Time take nine?

I appreciate what has been created here but I blame the censorship and having to walk on eggshells that has turned a lot of people away and sucked the life out of the banter with the ones still here.

Agree the sexual banter is a bit much and should be relegated to the adult category. Wit is fine, but most of what occurs here is of the adolescent variety.

The other thing is the amount of "prolific posts" (aka Spam) that some post - as many as 30 in a row which generate few views and even fewer answers. Maybe two per hour or per day (or something like that) should be the rule.

Finally, the "silly" stuff is, well, silly.

Ozgirl, thank you for starting this thread.  Not sure if this is appropriate but I am going to put it out there anyway.

There were a couple of people that joined around the same time I did.  We became friendly and, over time, we discussed with each other about what we felt were over postings of what appeared to be rhetorical or identical questions along with inconsistencies in monitoring.   As newbies, there was the shared feeling that we were being targeted while others who had been here longer were given much more freedom of expression.  I was slapped down extremely rudely, when I simply let the poster know I didn't agree with their POV and explained why.  That person was not reprimanded because they were a long time member.  Yet, a short while later, I was censored over a joke (no abusive language) that I made to a friend.  I was told I was too rude to the member in my response.  And, when I explained we were old friends from another site, I was told smiley faces are what are usually used so people know that it is a joke.  I didn't argue or get upset.  I have a pretty thick skin. But, it was confusing to me in the fact that my friend knows me and knew it was joke.  I still don't understand why I needed to worry about what anyone else may read into it when it was a post between me and my friend, who didn't complain. 

Getting back to the people who joined the site at the same time I did, one that I thought I had developed a rapport with, who had been one of the people that complained to me, deleted his account without giving me any warning he was going.  It leaves me wondering how many other people have joined and done the same thing.  I know we can't control what other people do, but I believe we should all feel comfortable enough to be able to have an open discussion without fear of retribution, which, for me personally, hasn't been the case here.

I will add, in closing, that lately, it's been feeling like the life has been sucked out of the room here.  Good people that I liked aren't here anymore or make minimal appearances.  I wonder if that is healthy or normal for sites like this.  I honestly don't know because I don't have enough experience with them.  I do know that not everyone is going to agree, that's just human nature.  But, is it possible for us to find a good balance here of what is appropriate and acceptable behavior and, if there is an issue, feel that we can talk about it openly?  I think most will agree that the objective is to be answering questions and interacting in a way that will bring in more members, not feeling the need to defend ourselves or be fearful we will have our hands slapped as if we were children.