How can someone with anxiety feel they'd be a good match with someone?

I've had some wonderful thoughts on relationships here, and how to take dating just one step at a time, and not to put pressure on me or anything when seeking love. It has helped me to ease my mind a bit, as I've never dated, and I'm very grateful to ppl of AM for their open thoughts on how a guy should be ok with any abuse I've had in my past ( a lot, as in nearly my whole life). Yet I still find my mind thinking , you have anxiety about many things, who would want to BE or stay with you? I wonder if anyone here has had anxiety affect their life, particularly with dating or love, and how  you maybe changed your subconscious to believing you were somehow Ok and a match for someone?