Discussion»Questions»Human Behavior» If you have a problem with someone do you tweet/email/go through a 3rd party or talk to the person face-to-face and deal with it? Why?
In person? Maybe. I would prefer to write something out first, so the person knows where I stand.
Then meet.
To simply confront the person, may just make them feel attacked. I know if someone is ready to talk to me and I have no clue why, it puts me off center. I don't know what to anticipate and may feel unnecessarily attacked and then I will be more on the defensive.
That is me. I think most people react that way.
So, if I write it out first and ask for a "meeting" with the person, they are on more solid ground as to what my beef or concern is. They are able to answer me and I, in turn, still can anticipate where this will go.
So, to be fair, and only to be fair, I would write first and then meet. To have a 3rd party seems cowardly, but sometimes that is the best way if there is already consternation between me and the offensive party. Maybe that will soften the blow for them. It depends on the situation.
This post was edited by WM BARR . =ABSOLUTE TRASH at July 28, 2017 8:44 AM MDT
I know of someone who constantly addresses the problems she has with the way people do things by posting thinly-disguised questions about behavior and interaction, while mimicking some of the very actions against which she decries.
