Discussion»Questions»Human Behavior» Loyalty can be tricky. If conflict arises do you betray YOUR core beliefs to support those of others? How can you?
I try not to. I usually try to speak my own mind and at the same time calm the situation. It doesn't always work like when my sister and my then wife got into an argument. How do I support one or the other? I agreed with my wife in that particular argument, but after my wife got angry and left I stayed behind and tried to talk to my sister about it. I am loyal, but if someone I'm loyal to is wrong or being a jerk to someone I will call them on it. They get mad at me for awhile, but as long as you explain your point of view usually they get over it. Not always though, my brother and I didn't speak much for 10 years and it all started over a fight between him and our father and my brother resented me for playing both sides I guess? We had arguments of our own after that, but I never regret being loyal to my beliefs rather than just having blind loyalty to others. I've just learned that I should stay the heck out of it if I can when people I love are fighting.
Lesson learned I betcha! There are some things you can't win or even place/show because the deck is stacked(mixed metaphor) against your success so it's best to just stay out of it. Thank you for your thoughtful answer and for sharing some specifics with us. It's very helpful when folks share their personal experiences in detail in response to a question. I appreciate that you did and do Truthseeker. I think you always lose when you betray your own core values. Always. Happy Monday m'dear! :)
It does not have to be 'either or'. It can be both, or neither. Think hard before you generalize the world down to just one attribute. Leave that to the trumpeteers.
I guess I need to have THE TALK with you JakobA. Please don't tell me how to think or feel or what to say or ask. Would you write to an author and tell him/her how the book could have been improved? People write what they do and it is either your cuppa tea or it isn't. Either way is fine with me. Answer or don't. I have only written to one author in my life and that was a 28-page letter to John Steinbeck, my favorite author. (NO. I am not comparing myself to him). The letter was to let him know how much his books meant to me and how I wish I could have met the folks who lived on Cannery Row/Tortilla Flats. He wrote me a postcard, both sides, written by hand in May 1969 with some very helpful words. The point I'm trying to make here is that all the people who ask questions are authors. Our styles differ and the content may differ. Those who supply answers are authors too. Some you like, some you don't. That's life JakobA.
Benedict Arnold 