Would you give up your dream so a loved one could realize his/hers? Your parents can't afford to pay for both of you. What do you do? Why?

Please read my reply to mk. I explained the reason for the question Addb. It wasn't the parenst who decided that. It was the sibling. I thought that was the best example of love between siblings I've ever seen. Thank you for your reply and Happy Wednesday to thee! :)

OK makes sense... if the sibling truly felt that the other deserved the chance I guess that's ok.. my worry would be that one, perhaps with a more submissive and conciliatory disposition felt they *had to* to that.. some people are always putting others first.. Like as a child I ALWAYS did everything and gave everything to my sister... I would do her share of the housework, I would give her my candy that I had saved when she had eaten all hers - and this is my nature.. but in the wider scheme of things... should one person be encouraged or allowed to keep putting themselves in that position? In some ways it can be unintentionally encouraged... as in one child knows they are not the favourite...and feels less deserving... I am not saying it's wrong or right for that family - I can't know that.. I am not there so try not to judge.. but for myself.. I couldn't allow that.. and at the end of the day the talented one could have utillised student loans etc.. so I am not sure it ever did boil down to parents being able to afford etc.. I am maybe looking at it from the perspective that I couldn't afford to support any of my kids so I shared what resources I did have between them all... I think even if I had had enough, and I suppose at a stretch I could have afforded to support one of them... but it wasn't ever an option for me as I personally couldn't do that.. 
I was mindful when I answered of a chat friend of mine.. she has always put her sister first.. saying her sister always seemed to need more.. but I can see that my friend has suffered greatly in emotional and real terms from always allowing her parents to fuss and preen over her sister, give the sister everything and it's resulted in my friend never feeling she can ask for anything... 

I'm going to bring up something that may anger you Addb. If it does I apologize in advance. There are people who martyr themselves. My mother was such a one as that. I remember years ago when we went to the store once for her to buy herself a coat. We waited in the car...my dad, younger sister and me. She came out of the store with a large bag and said she'd show it to us when we got home. When we got home what it actually was? A suit for my dad. Once again she sacrificed herself for us and there was no joy for us in that. I'm not saying that's you. But you have to realize that your loved ones WANT you to be taken care of too. If you always sacrifice everything for them you deprive them of the pleasure of seeing you be a recipient of something just for you. Parents..mothers especially...are prone to doing that. The children DO NOT APPRECIATE IT. I know from experience. For what it's worth. Thank you for your reply m'daer. Are we still friends? This post was edited by RosieG at September 13, 2017 11:41 AM MDT

Here's why I asked the question mk. I was watching the TV show "So you think you can dance". One of the dancers has a brother who was a very good ice skater. She loved dancing. The parents couldn't afford to pay for both of them to follow their dream so her brother gave up the skating so their parents could focus on her. And another competitor got into dancing because of his older brother. Same thing. The older brother told his parents he would give up dancing so they could focus on the younger boy. Sibling love. I thought it was an extraordinary thing to do. Thank you for your reply and Happy  Wednesday! :