Is this too dramatic?

If you're divorced, that's fine.  If not, check with your lawyer first.

You two are still doing quite the little dance with each other.  

Its confusing. You say shes your ex, yet shes your her wonderful self? I take it you still like her a lot? Do you have a drinking problem already, or do you just drink a lot when she is around. Do you like to drink more?  It depends on what YOU want to do and whats good for YOU. Dont compromise your well being for some extra storage space for her if you dont feel comfortable doing so. If you do feel comfortable doing so, do so. Youll need to fill in a few more details really.

Put her papers elsewhere.  Don't let her have them.   

Do not be there when she comes.  Lock her out and tell her she needs your cooperation before she storms over any time she feels like it.

Tell her you will meet her at some bank and be in the bank and hand her the papers and walk away.

JUST GO. 

No exchange at all.

Screw that.  Let her make APPOINTMENTS that are convenient FOR YOU.  You need to spend your time training this b***ch that she does not any longer walk all over you.   Grow a pair?  It will feel better when you do and she no longer affects you.  That is the biggest gift of all. 



This post was edited by WM BARR . =ABSOLUTE TRASH at September 15, 2017 3:28 PM MDT

I think it's time to create some healthy boundaries so you can both heal some. If you have something she needs and is entitled to, you should give it to her without any personal comments. But, that doesn't mean you need to see her. You can leave things in your mailbox or someplace else where she can access it without talking to you. Change the locks to the house if you haven't yet. It sounds harsh, but it's not her home anymore. 

I'm pretty sure that I've said this before, but when I took my required parenting class during my divorce, the teacher told us to treat it like a business relationship. You don't talk about emotions, about the past, about being friends, about what went wrong... nothing. You make arrangements as needed. You keep communication curt, to the point, and cordial. That goes for making arrangements about the kids all the way through handling any divorce-related stuff. 

The marriage is over. Being angry, hurling insults, or trying to cause the other pain will not help in any way, shape, or form. The best thing you can do is to stay on topic and be business-like. You need that kind of distance or you'll fall into a constant trap of each of you trying to hurt the other. You can't heal the wound if you keep pouring salt on it and you can't move past it if you're always putting your energy into it. 

If you no longer wish to see her ... get a restraining order for any time other than custody exchanges.
Package up everything of hers, and FedEx it to her.

Yea it is a bit dramatic... and thing is... you are better and bigger than that.. that may be how you FEEL but it's  not wise to allow yourself that indulgence.. I am pretty sure she KNOWS how much she hurt you.. and that you are still hurting... it might well be too that she misses you, that she is looking for a way back... you are very vulnerable where she is concerned because you do still have feelings for her.. albeit for the her you thought she was... . be very careful.. the advice others have given to make sure you don't see her is excellent advice..  regardless of what happens in the future with you two, right now you aren't ready to meet her in person.. 

TS,
everyone has given you excellent advice. Work out your feelings before you see her in person. It's so emotionally difficult, my heart goes out to you, having to deal with this right now. 

Sorry.  I didn't read through everyone's answers.  

Ask her what papers she's looking for, pull them out, and leave them in an envelope on your front step.  OR, bring them to a mutual friend and leave them there for her to pick up.