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Do you think children born to happily married parents usually have happy marriages too?

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Posted - July 25, 2016

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  • 53509
    There may or may not be a direct correlation between the two. For instance, people's successes or failures in life don't guarantee that the same successes or failures will befall their children.
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      July 25, 2016 7:40 PM MDT
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  • I agree; but a happy home is a whole environment which the children unconsciously absorb, unlike parents' successes or failures, which are independent, isolated  events. Happily married parents may have professional failures and setbacks (retrenchment, for example, or repeated failures to pass an exam for promotion), but with proper supportive attitudes and love, their homes and marriages can still be happy, indeed very happy, wouldn't you agree?  

      July 25, 2016 8:11 PM MDT
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  • 275

    They're definitely more likely to.  Studies have shown that an individual whose parents divorced before that individual reached the age of 10 years old are more likely to never get married or want children.

      July 25, 2016 8:20 PM MDT
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  • 676

    Not necessarily

      July 25, 2016 9:17 PM MDT
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  • 11112
    Well both my sons have been in a happy marriage for many years and I like to think it's because they grew up in a happy home. On the other hand the wife and I grew up in horribly un happy homes. So I guess it's a tie - 2 kids grow up in a un happy home - they make a happy home - and their 2 kids have a happy marriage. Cheers!
      July 25, 2016 9:34 PM MDT
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  • 17261
    I think that will be a way to simplistic way to look at marriages as for happiness. What is a happy marriage, how do we define it? No arguing a at all, or the ability to find compromises, or yet again the ability to create a safe environment for our children, and if so what is a safe environment, and what about the marriages without any children, and can we abandon our marriages after the children have moved out, and so many other questions keeps popping into my mind...
      July 26, 2016 2:41 AM MDT
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  • Bez

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    Not necessarily. My parents had a happy marriage but I have no desire to marry at all. I can't imagine myself being happily married. To my way of thinking, the phrase "happily married" is an oxymoron. Still, it's a good question that provides food for thought.

      July 26, 2016 3:26 AM MDT
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  • Maybe .. but it all depends on whether or not the "children" find the right people for them.  Marriage is about getting to know someone really well and making good choices in who you want to be with.  Even kids of happily married parents might not know what's right for themselves.

      July 26, 2016 4:02 AM MDT
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  • 1128

    It depends on the individual imo.  Yes, they have role models to lookup to, but that desn't guarantee the success and happiness of their marriage.

    They may never find someone who measures up to their parents.

      July 26, 2016 11:05 AM MDT
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  • 1128

    Love you answer Sapphic. True on all points!

      July 26, 2016 11:15 AM MDT
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  • 3375

    Depends, although I don't doubt kids from a happy marriage do fare better in their younger adult years and those that grew up in turmoil.

    I grew up in a divorce situation and I feel it took me longer to find stability with the right partner.  My husband grew up with happily married parents and he is a great husband himself.  But he did marry once before me and hung in there for a long time.  I think in some ways, he figured it was his "duty" to hang in there when times were tough, which was a lot given his ex wife's problems.  I also "hung in there" for decades with my last marriage, knowing I was unhappy, but figuring this was "normal" after watching my parents.

    So in a nutshell?  A good and happy marriage is comes from where you are in life when you met and how stable you are when you go into it.  Marriage takes a lot of commitment and a willingness to compromise.

      July 26, 2016 11:27 AM MDT
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  • 17600

    Children who grow up with happy married parents in a stable and secure home have the best chance of it.  They have role models. 

      July 26, 2016 1:17 PM MDT
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  • 17261
    Thank you SA. These are indeed questions that I face and ask myself. I haven't found a perfect answer to them and that's why I find them interesting. Hmm.
      July 26, 2016 1:55 PM MDT
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