What I meant by "the longer it takes to find that person, the less likely it will ever happen", is that the older one gets, the narrower the field gets. People get married, or they decide their content to be single, or they simply don't wish to pursue relationships (perhaps from being hurt too much?).
I agree, many times young people think that what they see on TV or in movies is how life is or should be. They think that things are always rosy. "We'll marry and have kids and all will be bliss". Oh, it sounds nice, but if it were really like that, they’d go nuts. Problems and adversities are what make people grow. Without them, we become stagnant and apathetic - not happy (which is ironic).
Here's where we disagree.... "Hard work" -
I firmly believe a good relationship does require hard work. If one sows lemons, they're not going to harvest roses. Putting forth little or no effort in any relationship will yield a rather poor relationship - or no relationship at all. One can't simply sit back and expect to have a "stellar" relationship. That'd be like sitting back and waiting for $1 million to fall into your lap. It doesn't work that way. It takes effort. It would be nice if all relationships were “comfy, easy and smooth”; and granted, some may seem that way. Yet to get the relationship to that level takes work (i.e. effort). If one never talks to their friend, do you think that friendship will last?
Yes, disagreements and arguments must come (as we're all different and have our own opinions on things). Without them a relationship won’t grow (we must learn to live with our differences, not merely work around them). Granted, after a while, a relationship may get to be “easy, comfy and smooth”... but it took effort (hard work) to get to that level - even if it didn't seem like it. If two people really enjoy their relationship with each other, then any “work” they do to maintain that relationship won’t seem like work. Giving the other an occasional bouquet of flowers – for no reason at all; bringing them chicken soup when they’re sick; giving the other your coat when they’re cold; popping in on the other when they’re at work just to say hi; taking them out to dinner because they had a hard day at work; sticking a note in their lunch that says, ‘I love you’…. all these actions are “work” – whether they seem to be or not.
This post was edited by Shuhak at December 9, 2017 11:41 AM MST