Discussion»Questions»Relationships» If you're past your mid-40s, then looking back at your past relationships, how do you see yourself relationship-wise ten years hence?
My previous relationships were long ago, and they were disasters. I picked bad guys. Ten years from now I will have been with a good guy for 45 years. If we both live that long.
Meh, I look back without a whole lot of regrets. There were times in my past when those "relationships" served their exact purposes: I wasn't after anything serious, meaningful or long term, I was always up front about it, so I sought out women who thought the same way. There wasn't much to learn that I could or can apply ten years or more after the fact. Had I been hurt a lot, had my heart broken a lot, been betrayed, etc, I can see how lessons may have derived from all of that if I had been seeking simethingsomething profound, like marriage, but in my particular case, I was out to have fun and that's what I did. The higher the bar of expectations, the more probability there is for learning and/or catching deep feelings.
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This post was edited by Randy D at December 15, 2017 2:53 PM MST
looking to the past... relationship with Life. Future look... relationship with Life. sooo...Everything is lookin Good Relationship with life is quite good. there are no limits to the depth of existence we can experience and so it is, in a relationship with the Depth of Love. so anyway that's the future for my relationships...LOL
If you have no financial or family obligations then I see no point in staying in a relationship that makes you miserable . A relationship should enhance your life.
In ten years, I'll be 82. I'll be lucky if I can remember what a relationship is at that point! However, I do have some VERY happy memories of the ones I've already had. :)
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