Discussion»Statements»Rosie's Corner» What d'ya do if you are a target for bullies? D'ya suck up to them, compliment them, pander to them, become one of them just to survive?
Many people who claim to be victims of bullying are faking. They're just playing the victim to try to get the sympathy of others because they're passive aggressive trash. They're not being bullied, they're just losing a conflict they chose because they're not as strong as their enemy. If I got in the ring with a heavy weight boxer and got my ass kicked, have I been bullied? Obviously not since I chose to enter the ring.
Bullying is based on the contempt for weakness. Show a bully that you're not weak and they'll leave you alone. For those who genuinely are being bullied, there are two choices. You must fight back and win, or you must fight back and lose, but you must fight back.
Submission, pandering, trying to be one of them etc is what weak people do and it will only deepen the bully's contempt for you. If you know you can't win on one battlefield, choose another.
This post was edited by Zeitgeist at January 23, 2018 8:44 AM MST
Of course you can quantify some of your hypothesises. It would be foolish of you not too. But for once I actually agre with a small amount that you say. It would be weak of menot to stand up to the Trumpian bullies. You may argue with me if you wish. Whether you do is of little consequence, mignon of the establishment that you are. If you don't know what that means, look it up. Nice seeing you again, ironically, of course
Literally sweetie? Are you a gun person or do you mean that figuratively? SIGH. Thank you for your reply Lulu'sMom. I want you watching my back if I ever get into a pickle like that. :) ((hugs))
Guess I am not a target not have ever been because I don't remember any bullying growing up or as an adult though I read about it in recent years. Seems it is caused by people who just see themselves as having nothing positive for them going so they try to achieve negative status by making other people suffer. People I grew up with and have known and worked with just never felt that kind of desperation they had to resort to stuff like that to make themselves feel better about themselves. They did it by taking positive actions socially, or in terms or career, interests, causes etc. So felt no need to be bullies.
I think you've been lucky. I've often found myself in circumstances where I was the odd man out, and the ideal victim for the people around me. Luckily I've learnt to not let them get away with it. For example, when you live in a foreign country, and you don't speak the language, it's surprising how the people around you can be intuitive enough to make your life difficult. There are always times when you are too tired, or down, to defend yourself.
I was the target for bullies when I was a kid, and later on in life. But as time went by I learnt to defend myself, to the point where I felt I was probably better equipped to defend myself , then the average person, as a result of it all. I think you should try to keep your integrity, and not give in to it. But, I think there is point you can get to, when it's just too much, and you can't always win.
I've been the odd one out (woman) almost all my life and never felt any need to "defend" myself". From what? Let them think what they want because they will anyway. I've got better things to do with my life.
Lulu'sMom 