Ham and eggs. Peanut butter and jelly. Abbott and Costello. Burns & Allen. Martin and Lewis. Thank you for your response Malizz and Happy Wednesday! :)
I can love but people who put the definition of LIKE into it, do not understand what love is.
Love is unconditional. Love is non-judgment. Love is understanding and accepting whatever is.
That is Love.
I don't like the killer even though the killer is my son. I must accept the fact that I hate him as far as like and dislike are concerned, and yet, there but for the grace of God, go I. We cannot judge what is in another's heart and for what reason. Maybe my killer son has no filter like the other brother had. Maybe he has a mental anomaly that he has no control over. Maybe he had no tools to keep himself from acting out. Maybe he was sick and if we were sick like that, we would kill as well. That is for the courts to decide. That is why we have the law. As a mother it is not our job.
That is for the objective justice system to sort out. Not a mother. A mother has been hurt to the depths, but a mother does not seek revenge on her children. She is not trying to get even. She may try to get justice for the other son, but that does not mean she stopped loving the killer. The best medicine for the killer is to accept his fate and take his medicine.
I'm not wired to love unconditionally. Why would anyone LOVE a person who very badly mistreats them or betrays them or sets out to destroy them or others? How could one LOVE anyone like that? What is there to LOVE about such a one as that? I could not LOVE someone who terrifies me. I may be the only one in the world who feels like that and believes that. So be it. Thank you for your reply Sharon and the graphics and Happy Wednesday! :)
So hard to say or comment true fully until it actually happenes Rosie...until that day arises you can only surmise as to what your feeling would be... Depending on your upbringing and place of birth it's hard to predict how someone would actually feel...
Some kids are born wrong un's Rosie.....They have brain defects or violent genes from past generations ... Nothing will ever change them or their violent controlling minds.... Lock them up for life or kill them is the only solution for people with those server tendencies ....Why Charles Manson was allowed to live after his crimes makes no sense to me....
I think if I was his parent ,I would want him dead so he could never hurt another person ....
That is a very complicated question. It's easy to say wrong actions shouldn't mitigate love (which is true). However, when push comes to shove and you're the one looking down at a casket holding the cold body of your child ... knowing that you'll never see them again, never hear their voice again, never touch them again - all because of your other child's actions... Does that parent condone what their child did? No. Dot they did hurt to the core over it? Most definitely! Can they ever forgive that child? ???? That's a tough one.
It's very difficult for a parent to ever stop loving their child. Even after a child has died there's still a spark of love deep within. Love is a mysterious thing, and a parents love for their child is even more mystifying. It baffles human understanding. We've seen people who, by reasons of their actions, we think are are beyond loving ... and yet their parents love them. A person went out and murdered 25 people - and yet somehow their parents still love them. How? Why? Unless you're a parent these questions are inexplicable. We can't equate love with consent. We can love someone but not approve of their actions. So it is with parents. Sometimes a parent's love is so strong that they can't fathom wrong actions committed by their child (my child could never do something like that).
Thank you for a very thoughtful reply Shuhak, You say "wrong actions shouldn't mitigate love". I disagree. I guess I'm wired differently than you. If my child is a monster and does monstrous things what is there to love about that? You love people for whom they are. Some love those who are evil. Doesn't that make them evil too? How can good love evil? Does evil love good? If a child murders a parent does the other parent still love the child? My mind does not comprehend loving a monster. If I gave birth to one who is that it is even more horrifying. I know folks say true love is unconditional. I have never subscribed to that. I think everything is conditional. Would you love a child whom you fear? I knew a gal whose son broke her leg in some furious outburst. She was deathly afraid of him. She gave him money whenever he asked for it. The monster son kid broke his younger brother's arm one day. Did she love him? I never asked her that question. I lost touch with her. For all I know her son murdered her one day when he had nothing better to do. I think parents are obligated to raise their children until they can go out on their own. I don't think parents are obligated to unconditionally love them if they are monstrous and evil. How could you possibly LOVE that which terrifies you? Thank you for your reply Shuhak.
This post was edited by RosieG at May 23, 2018 5:24 AM MDT
I'm not wired to love unconditionally tom. I think that is very illogical/unreasonable. If someone very badly mistreats me or betrays me or tries to destroy me why should I still love such a person? Just because I gave birth to him/her? Decades ago a pair of brothers murdered their parents. Should those parents LOVE those kids if there is a beyond and they live in that beyond? Why? Loving a monster no matter what seems ridiculously absurd to me. Maybe my head is in the driver's seat and my heart is just a passenger. I like that. I'm gonna ask a question about that. If that makes me a monster so be it. Thank you for your reply.
This post was edited by WM BARR . =ABSOLUTE TRASH at May 23, 2018 5:29 AM MDT
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