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Benedict Arnold

How long does it take for you to come out of your shell when you're going to be around a group of people on a daily/weekly basis?

How about a single individual?  Is one easier than the other?  

I have to edit.  I should have included this is relative to people you first meet.  I beg your forgiveness. 

Posted - September 28, 2018
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  • 22891
    depends on who the people are
      September 28, 2018 2:20 PM MDT
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  • 44618
    I think it depends on your definition of shell. If I am around the same people I am with daily or weekly, there is no shell other than that which I choose not to talk about. It also depends on whether they are men or women.
      September 28, 2018 3:06 PM MDT
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  • I see I should have included this is relative to people you first meet. I will edit.
      September 28, 2018 4:16 PM MDT
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  • 44618
    That would be quite different. I would spend much of my time observing them first.
      September 28, 2018 5:19 PM MDT
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  • 10026
    Hmmmm.  That's a tough one because it has so many factors.
      I find it a lot harder if it is an individual.  Like your boss, for example.  Or, someone who everyone expects you to get along with.  If it is a stranger that I am going to be seeing 5 days a week for 5 hours and in a closed environment, I would tread cautiously but immediately find something we had in common.  Like working.  It would depend on their personality too.  Are they bashful?  Are they pushy? Loud? Quiet? Are we going to be stepping over each other or in cubbies? Outside?  Inside?   Male?  Female?
    I going to give a guess here.  I would probably open up about personal things after about 6 months.  Until then, I'd keep things on a very happy but safe area.  I would let them in on basic things.  I am happily married.  I like people.  I love animals.  I love my family, etc.
    Opening up about Sex, Politics, and Religion would take about a year, if ever depending on how we clicked.

    As far as a group.  Probably never on the Sex, Politics, and Religion.   But easy on the basic others and quicker on these. 

    I think as a general rule, I just roll with it and see where we end up.  

      September 28, 2018 4:12 PM MDT
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  • It has to start somewhere, and yes, it's gradual.
      September 28, 2018 4:22 PM MDT
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  • 17599
    12.5 minutes
      September 28, 2018 8:57 PM MDT
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  • 1502
    I don’t go into personal details at work with anyone at work. I only have two coworkers who I hang out with away from work. It took them a couple of years to earn my full trust. I have to be this way working in a prison. I don’t want my personal life all over the darn prison. I am always me from the start with everyone as far as how I act. However, one must earn my trust before I fully open up to them. I have family members who don’t even know what my poltical beliefs and my stance on or if I practice a religion. 
      September 28, 2018 9:09 PM MDT
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