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If we should love our neighbours as ourselves - what are the implications? See below...

Many people grew up in families and environments where there was no love and as adults they have never learned how to love themselves.

What are some of the ways we could help to break the generational cycles of abuse and create a more loving society?


  • 4.1 million child maltreatment referral reports received.
  • Child abuse reports involved 7.4 million children.
  • 3.5 million children received prevention & post-response services.
  • 143,866 children received foster care services.
  • 74.8% of victims are neglected.
  • 18.2% of victims are physically abused.
  • 8.5% of victims are sexually abused.
  • 6.9% of victims are psychologically maltreated.
  • Highest rate of child abuse in children under age one (24.8% per 1,000).1
  • Over one-quarter (28.5%) of victims are younger than 3 years.1
  • Annual estimate: 1,750 children died from abuse and neglect in 2016.1,
  • Almost five children die every day from child abuse.1,2
  • 78.0% of child fatalities involve at least one parent.1
  • 70.0% of child fatalities are under the age of 3.1
  • 74.6% of the child abuse victims die from neglect.1
  • 44.2% of the child abuse victims die from physical abuse.1
  • 49.4% of children who die from child abuse are under one year.1
  • Boys had a higher child fatality rate than girls(2.87 boys & 2.11 girls per 100,000)1
  • Almost 60,000 children are sexually abused.1
  • More than 90% of juvenile sexual abuse victims know their perpetrator.6
  • Estimated that between 50-60% of maltreatment fatalities are not recorded on death certificates.5
  • Child abuse crosses all socioeconomic and educational levels, religions, ethnic and cultural groups.1

Who abused and neglected children? 

  • 83.4% (More than four-fifths) of perpetrators were between the ages of 18 and 44 years.1
  • 53.7% (More than one-half) of perpetrators were women45.3 % of perpetrators were men, and 1.0 % were of unknown sex.1

Consequences and Risk Factors:

  • Abused children are 25% more likely to experience teen pregnancy.6
  • Abused teens are more likely to engage in sexual risk taking behaviors, putting them at greater risk for STDs.6
  • About 30% of abused and neglected children will later abuse their own children, continuing the horrible cycle of abuse.7
  • In at least one study, about 80% of 21 year olds that were abused as children met criteria for at least one psychological disorder.13
  • The financial cost of child abuse and neglect in the United States is estimated at $585 billion.

    Effects of Parental Drug & Alcohol Abuse

    Drug/alcohol abuse by parents and caregivers has an effect on children, often resulting in neglect of the children and threatened abuse.

    Drug abuse is non-discriminate, affecting all socioeconomic groups and people from all walks of life. Tolerance and dependency on drugs can develop quickly, without the user even realizing that addiction is taking hold. The pattern of abuse and addiction can be extremely difficult to stop.

    • Alcohol abuse (parent/caregiver)—the compulsive use of alcohol that is not of a temporary nature.
    • Drug abuse (parent/caregiver)—the compulsive use of drugs that is not of a temporary nature.
    • Domestic violence (parent/caregiver)–abusive, violent, coercive, forceful, or threatening act or word inflicted by one member of a family or household on another.



Posted - September 29, 2018


  • 22385
    we're supposed to but sonne are so nnean, nnine underneath nne kept nne up half the night, thank god hes getting kicked out tonnorrow
      September 30, 2018 8:55 AM MDT

  • 5740
    You have quite missed the point.  Love the Lord your God and love your neighbor as yourself. It is assumed you love yourself because we automatically tend to act in our own interest, or self-interest.  However we love God by loving our neighbor as ourselves which means he is us and is not apart from us and together we stand or fall together.  Which means simply help your neighbor as if he were your own family because he or she is. 

    Now all in apprehending any such statistics provided we must understand where they are  coming from and many groups use such statistics to beg or expect funding from various sources so are only too happy to stretch them to paint as bleak a picture as possible.  There is always suffering in the world and there always will be.  All we can do about that it is to use our personal resources to help in whatever way we choose to. We can choose to concentrate on the suffering if we wish.  Or we can choose to concentrate on all the joy and happiness  that exists in the world as well. It is not only one or the other. And joy exists amid suffering just as suffering can exist among joy. 
      September 30, 2018 9:56 AM MDT