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When is it ok to ask someone if they've put on weight?

Posted - October 30, 2018

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  • 44175
    I'll take 'What is never?' for $400, Alex.
      October 31, 2018 7:02 AM MDT
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  • 1713
    I guess if they're trying to put on weight. I have a friend who has no problem asking if I put on weight, but it doesn't offend me because I'm a bit underweight and have been trying to gain. I don't like it when people ask if I've lost weight because I'm a little insecure about how tiny I am..
      October 31, 2018 5:17 PM MDT
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  • 1305
      October 31, 2018 7:09 PM MDT
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  • Only when you intend to precede or follow it with how much better she or he looks now. This post was edited by Benedict Arnold at November 9, 2018 12:32 PM MST
      October 31, 2018 7:24 PM MDT
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  • 488
    It all depends on whom you're asking it to. You can ask it freely to someone who is close to you and know that he/she isn't going to get offended with that.

    In general, you can ask them when you have seen them after a long time and you found them to be more fat than last time you saw.
      November 1, 2018 12:40 PM MDT
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  • 46117
    When you are trying to save their life, maybe.

    Or if they ask.


      November 1, 2018 1:11 PM MDT
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  • 952
    When they have!
      November 1, 2018 1:20 PM MDT
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  • 7919
    For shame. Some of us (clearly most of us here) have better manners than that, Mr. Igloo Elephant. :o
      November 1, 2018 4:05 PM MDT
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  • 952
    Many congratulations! lol
      November 2, 2018 2:11 PM MDT
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  • 10026
    I think somebodies weight should be the 4th thing you never talk about.  People are really sensitive to that topic.  Either they think they are too skinny or too fat.  I've not met a person yet that will gladly tell you their weight or feel they are at the ideal weight.  Let's not get into muscle tone... Sheeeesh! .

    How about this for an idea:  Unless you mean it as a compliment, leave the topic out of all discussions. 
      November 2, 2018 1:43 AM MDT
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  • 6098
    It is OK any time though I would be polite and not do so.  Because they might take it to heart and interpret as something being wrong with them so best to refrain from asking. 
      November 3, 2018 4:14 PM MDT
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  • I wish someone would ask me that. I could well do with three or four more kilos. 
      November 3, 2018 9:15 PM MDT
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  • 7919
    Have a talk with Ritesh. He'll have you convinced you look like the Stay Puft Marshmallow Man in no time.
      November 4, 2018 12:12 AM MDT
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  • I did see your admonition to him earlier. 
      November 4, 2018 1:10 AM MDT
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  • 6098
    Ghostbusters was a fun movie. 
      November 4, 2018 5:32 AM MST
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  • 952
    Are you trying to smear me JA? :D
      November 9, 2018 11:55 AM MST
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  • 7919
    No, you do a fine job of it on your own. ;)
      November 9, 2018 11:57 AM MST
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  • 952
    You admonished me as promised! -_-
      November 9, 2018 12:07 PM MST
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  • 6098
    Yes?  Then for goodness sake please enjoy yourself!  But make it with something healthy.  For years and years, until maybe 15 years ago, whatever I ate I just did not put on weight.  Now if I overdo , or even go out with my husband, the next day I am three to five pounds heavier, after some meals I have been up seven pounds! Even with jogging and exercise.  So most work days I just don't bother with lunch and play on AM instead. 
      November 4, 2018 5:32 AM MST
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  • 13071
    When you want to be an ass roll.
      November 3, 2018 9:34 PM MDT
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