Discussion»Statements»Rosie's Corner» When someone tells you "don't go there" don't you "go there" immediately? Or are you an obedient order follower unquestoningly? Why?
My mom used to jump at any obstacle and say that just as a matter of course. So, naturally, I ignored her fears.
But as a rule, if someone cautions me, I do consider why and what they are trying to stop me from doing. I have no problem listening where my health and well-being are concerned.
I would have to totally trust in someone to follow them unquestionably. I doubt I would do it. Maybe. If I had to serve in the Millitary, I might --or some example like that. But even then, if I had a commander that was obviously NUTSO and I could prevent something bad from happening and not die myself, I probably would not follow some evil order.
I've had more than one occasion in which someone told me "You can't do that. I tried.". It never stops me. Guess what? I tried and I did it. So much for cautionary advice. Now there was never any question about my health or safety. I would certainly pay attention to that. One example. When I attended UCLA briefly many decades ago I stayed with a gal and her mom in Westwood. We both attended Pasadena City College which is where we met. She and her mom moved from Pasadena to Westwood and invited me to stay with them. At the time there was a BULLOCK'S department store in the Village. I was going to try to get a part-time job there. My friend tried, applied and was turned down. When I told her what I planned to do she told me not to bother. They were not hiring. I bothered and got hired. I did not flaunt it. No need. I worked there as long as I was at UCLA which was only a month or so. When I left the university I quit the job and was offered a permanent position in merchandising. They said they would send me to school for it. I was extremely flattered but I had an Academic major with Liberal Arts my focus. So I thanked them for the compliment and turned it down. So much for "you can't do that". I never listen to those folks. Thank you for your reply Sharon. Yes. I've been very lucky.
This post was edited by RosieG at March 5, 2019 5:01 AM MST
Which usually means "going there" would open a can of worms or at the very least cause discomfort. If someone seriously offered such advice I would most likely take it and internalize it and find a way of acting and doing which would not have to go there. Because I think it is simply being respectful of others feelings.
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