That someone always wins. That you are arguing about the same thing. That interrupting the person you are arguing with on top of talking louder and faster, will put you in the winning circle. That you are always right. That there are not two sides of the story. That you don't have time to even listen to another side. That you have the right to use violence when things aren't going your way. That if you are older, you are smarter. That if you are bigger, your opponent doesn't have a chance. That you have more friends and therefore it is o.k. to pick on you because you out number your opponent. That no matter what the conclusion is, you have the right to tell everyone you "won." Trying to get innocent people who have nothing to do with the arguement to side with you. To drag it on and on and on and on and on. To never forgive. That's all I can think of off the top of my head. Not to say I've been in a lot of arguements with people. I haven't. I don't play when my opponent doens't play by my rules. Absoutely NO YELLING. Act civilized and an adult (if you are one.) Controled and complete sentences and thoughts. Everyone gets a turn. NO interrupting., etc. I am really boring to fight with. It's no fun for anyone.
That it's always a negative thing with no good results.
It depends on how the topic is argued. It is possible to argue with the use of research, analysis and logic, starting from the examination of the validity of each premise. Learning this skill is an excellent way to keep the mind open and always alert to the possibilities of errors or new information.
Certain types of arguments are futile and destructive - the type described in Merlin's list.
Thank you bookworm. :) As you may or may not know, I love my mom to pieces. However, while I was growing up, she had a huge anger issue. Some of it I urged on because I was a more than usual rebellious child but I wasn't all to blame. She had a set of lungs on her that would make a whale jealous. When she was mad, you could hear her in Kansas and we lived in the Pacific Northwest. After reaching that peak of rage, there was NO coming back. That was many years ago and we both have grown and matured, together and apart. We have a true friendship as adults and respect for one another. It is a magical thing many adult children don't have with their parents. I value what I learn from her as she does me. Among the trials and tribulations, we laugh a lot, too.
And still, we hold that unspoken mother/daughter bond that is felt like no other bond can.
This post was edited by Merlin at June 25, 2019 8:57 PM MDT
Yeah, I've seen several customers at different times be incredibly rude to employees, regardless of whatever the customers are thinking/feeling. In some of the instances I saw, I admit part of me wanted to say, "Hey, pipe down - - get out of here. Your behavior is simply wrong and that cancels out any point you're trying to make."
Welby~ If you feel a person in any position, customer, employee, or employer... even a person on the street is doing another person harm, you have a right to feel that way. Chances are, if You, Welby, are feeling the right of a person is being abused, YOU are correct. It is good to know right from wrong and good to see when someone is being mistreated. Please don't cancel yourself out. You count and certainly your feelings are valid.
Long day --- or not. :) :) Hugs and Loves :) :)
This post was edited by Merlin at June 25, 2019 8:58 PM MDT
Hi Jane~ Before I respond to your thought, I must say, through all the years we have known each other, you haven't aged a bit. I would love to know how you keep that young and inviting look? Forget that question. After little thought I figured it out. It is because you are full of wisdom and with wisdom comes aging and accepting. You have done it beautifully. :):)
This post was edited by Merlin at June 25, 2019 8:58 PM MDT
WM BARR . =ABSOLUTE TRASH 