Discussion»Statements»Rosie's Corner» YOU ARE HIS TYPE. The sb prez sexually assaults/abuses you and asks "Do you know who I am"? What do you say? Why?
This is where I do think we have a problem in Western culture. In Victorian times, a woman had the right to slap a man's face for any kind of unwelcome advice. It made the rejection very clear. If others were nearby they would have immediately stepped in to defend her and he'd have expected it.
In my mother's generation, we were taught that the polite thing was to ignore men who behaved badly. I think this was appalling advice. It gives no clear message and results in men increasingly taking advantage.
I think the right response today is to look the man in the eye and say very loudly, "that behaviour is not appropriate." Then leave and tell someone immediately, preferably someone with authority and power, and keep a record of what happened.
If it's rape, a woman needs to do everything in her power to avoid it. That includes never letting one's self be alone in a closed room with a man, especially not at work. and never drinking alcohol or taking drugs with a man - not even a friend.
In attempted rape it means screaming, shouting, blow a whistle, set off a beacon or alarm, carry freshly home-made chilli spray and spray it in his eyes. If that doesn't work it means fighting with all one's might. Knee him hard in the balls. Stick two thumbs into his eyes. Anything it takes to get him off.
No matter what the woman does, if a man does not listen to her no, he is out of line and culpable.
But the law in most Western countries is now much clearer. A woman must actually be conscious, undrugged and say yes before a man has permission.
Or you can KNEE HIM IN HIS PRIVATE PARTS! I don't know if "successful" men have more testosterone than the averge guy but they seem to think they can take whatever they want. It is their due. I'm gonna ask. Abuse of women has always been around. Second-class citizens. They're good in bed and in the kitchen and taking care of the home but beyond that they need to shut up and just adore the men in their lives. There seems to be a surprisingly huge number of women who do that. Lack of mental acuity? Fear? Or what they think they deserve? I dunno but it sure surprises me. Thank you for your thoughtful reply bw. I'm gonna ask.