To be totally honest I cannot recall ever FORGIVING anyone anything. The hurt is felt. It is remembered. It can never not be with you.The damage is done A wound that doesn't heal is unforgettable. I let things go but that is very different from forgiving. If the hurt is not intentional then there is nothing to forgive. BUT if it is there is no way to forgive because what guarantee do you have that person won't INTENTIONALLY hurt you again? They never get a chance of that. But I do not harbor grudges and I don't seek revenge and I don't retaliate. I just go away and leave it at that. Thank you for your reply Shuhak! :)
I am very forgiving. There is a difference between forgiving and letting someone walk over you. But if you can see a person is truly regretful and trying. It is easy to just let it go.
To hold on to a grudge or a hurt, does not hurt that person. It hurts you, your heart and your soul. We all have made mistakes. And all need forgiveness.
I don't forgive m2c. I also don't believe in retaliation grudges or revenge. I just wash my hands of the person and move on. I don't have time for such negativity. I am the exact opposite of dumb don who wears all his grudges resentments like a badge of honor carrying them with him wherever he goes and adding on to them. They weigh him down. They DEFINE him. One of the many traits characteristics of his I find to be most disgusting along with his propensity to lie betray cheat undermine sabotage collude conspire. Whatta guy! Thank you for your reply and Happy Thursday to thee! :)
I don't forget D and I don't forgive. I also don't retaliate or exact revenge. I move on. It's just easier on me to do that and I find as I am getting older it's smart to take the easy road. Thank you for your reply and Happy Thursday to thee! :)
This is my own personal take on forgiveness, Rosie...
The man I profess to believe in as my Lord and Savior was unjustly accused and judged, scourged within an inch of his life, stripped, nailed to a cross, stabbed in the side with a sword, thorns driven into his skull, given vinegar to drink when thirsty, mocked shamed and denounced and even amidst these painful indignities while balancing frailly between life and death he managed to say these words, "Father forgive them for they know not what they do". In the face of all this if he can show compassion then surely I can do the same in regards to any feeble-by-comparison trespasses perpetrated against me. If I have any intention of even trying to be Christ like then I must forgive others, even those whom wish me harm and ill will which is one of the hardest acts of all. It is the very tenant of the Christian faith for without forgiveness we are all lost. Matthew chapter 18 verse 21-22
Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, “Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother who sins against me? Up to seven times?” Jesus answered, “I tell you, not just seven times, but seventy times seven".
Taken from the Lord's Prayer...
...Forgive us our trespasses as we forgive those who trespass against us...
Love ya, Rosie. Just thought I'd share my thoughts.
You are a very fine person Twink. I admire and respect you a great deal and I appreciate your sharing your thoughts with us. I do not forgive. I do not exact revenge or retaliate. I just move on. It is the best I can do. The "forgiveness" gene must be missing in me. Early on somewhere along the line I learned to accept what is, deal with it in the moment and then shed it and not drag it with me. That includes people. I know my limitations and weaknesses and I also know my strengths. I do not delude myself into thinking I'm the best version of myself that I can be. But it is all I can be so I just have to live with it. I will never connive or collude or conspire to do harm. I try to stay positive and engage in things that make me happy. I'm basically a loner because that's all that was available to me as a PAINFULLY SHY child. I skipped a few grades which made me younger than the other kids and also a target. You learn how to cope and play the hand you're dealt. I talk to GOD daily and have as long as I can remember. I taught Sunday School when I was 12 to nursery school kids. I have a great relationship with GOD. It's people who give me heartburn and disappoint me. I'm happy to see your moniker and engage with you whenever you show up because I KNOW it will be time well spent. Thank you for your thoughtful sharing of yourself Twink and Happy Thursday! Say hi to JG for me too please! :) ((hugs)) Love ya back! :)
I don't hold grudges either Lady Ondine. I also don't forgive or forget. I don't retaliate or exact revenge. I move on.Once trust is broken I'm done with that person. Thank you for your reply and Happy Thursday! :)
Thank you for your reply WQ and Happy Thurday to you. I'm not. I do not forgive or forget. I also just move on and don't indulge in "payback". A waste of time which I cannot afford as I grow older. :)
Shuhak 