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Do you have at least one friend that really gets you? I do.

Posted - April 18, 2020

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  • 11110
    Dolly does but she will claim they don't stink because she is a lady. Cheers and happy weekend!
      April 18, 2020 2:40 PM MDT
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  • 7408
    Who is dolly though? 
      April 18, 2020 2:58 PM MDT
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  • 44617
    A few here.
      April 18, 2020 1:06 PM MDT
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  • 7408
    Good :) I miss seeing That friend who text me that picture. her and I usually go for dinner and a drink at least twice  a month  before this stupid quarantine.
      April 18, 2020 1:10 PM MDT
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  • 44617
    Are you trying to kill Stu? her and I? It's her and me.
      April 18, 2020 1:20 PM MDT
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  • 7408
    I thought it was her and I...I GIVE UP!! Lol 
      April 18, 2020 1:21 PM MDT
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  • 13277
    Actually, it's she and I. She goes for dinner and I go for dinner. You wouldn't say her goes for dinner and me go/goes for dinner.

    It's a little-known fact that Element flunked out of the Grammar Police Academy.
      April 18, 2020 1:28 PM MDT
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  • 44617
    NJ was my tutor.
      April 18, 2020 5:03 PM MDT
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  • 13277
    No wonder.
      April 18, 2020 5:04 PM MDT
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  • 19937
    Yes.  My best friend and I met when we were 11 years old and we've been friends for 63 years.  There were periods where she and her family didn't live in New York and we maintained that friendship across the miles as though she never moved away.  She is the one person in my life who has never judged me.  I cannot imagine a time when she may not be in my life.
      April 18, 2020 2:38 PM MDT
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  • 53509

      How did she decide that she likes you and decide to become your friend without making a judgement call finding you favorable?  Judgement is not only a negative determination.  People judge each other all the time. 
    ~
      April 18, 2020 2:45 PM MDT
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  • 19937
    I should have said she is not judgmental.  What the heck did we know when we were 11 years old?
      April 18, 2020 2:51 PM MDT
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  • 53509

      That’s the same thing. The definition of the word “judgmental” is probably one of the most misunderstood and misused by people defending themselves and others. Being judgmental is the trait of using one’s judgement.

      It merely means that a person decides what he or does agrees with, disagrees with, likes, dislikes, wants, does not want, etc. It does not mean negative decisions only. 

      
    ~

      April 18, 2020 2:57 PM MDT
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  • 19937
    Thanks, Teach.  It's too early on a Sunday morning for me to think about school.

    "

    What is the meaning of judgmental?

    • The definition of judgmental is involved in using or making decisions, or making comments or observations about the moral importance of something."
    So, if someone thinks that something I've done doesn't meet their moral standard, they are being judgmental.
    This post was edited by SpunkySenior at April 19, 2020 6:06 AM MDT
      April 19, 2020 5:47 AM MDT
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  • 53509
    Even using the definition that you provided, where does it specify positive or negative judgement?  

    • The definition of judgmental is involved in using or making decisions, or making comments or observations about the moral importance of something."
    So, if someone thinks that something you’ve done DOES meet their moral standard, he or she is still being judgmental, it’s just that he or she has judged you in a favorable manner. 

    If you replace the word judgment with synonyms such as decision or opinion, it might help to see that it refers to both favorable and unfavorable. 
      April 19, 2020 7:31 AM MDT
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  • 19937
    I give in.  Most people (not you), think of someone who is judgmental as a negative trait.
      April 19, 2020 10:09 AM MDT
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  • 53509
    Yes, that’s what I’ve been staring stating all along: most people think that way, which is why I gave evidence to the contrary. 
    ~ This post was edited by Randy D at April 19, 2020 12:51 PM MDT
      April 19, 2020 11:41 AM MDT
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  • 19937
    "staring?"
      April 19, 2020 12:49 PM MDT
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  • 53509
    Oops, thanks for catching that!  It’s been edited!
    ~
      April 19, 2020 12:51 PM MDT
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  • 7408
    Long time :) nice
      April 18, 2020 2:57 PM MDT
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  • 19937
    Miraculous that anyone other than family could put up with me for that length of time. :)
      April 19, 2020 5:46 AM MDT
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  • 7408
    Ha :) 
      April 19, 2020 6:23 AM MDT
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  • 11110
    I do and I'm glad for it - nice to have someone that gets you even when you are being kind of weird. Cheers and happy weekend!
      April 18, 2020 2:50 PM MDT
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  • 7408
    It really is :) happy weekend. 
      April 18, 2020 2:58 PM MDT
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