would you want a gf/bf out of your ethnicity ?

I've never been romantically attracted to someone of another race until I came on answermug. 
However, I do have a kindred spirit connection with African Americans.  It probably began with the portrayal of them in the movies as kind and long-suffering.  My personal experience has been: genuineness and kindness with the African American community as a whole. It could also be I sense the inner strength in most people due to their struggles in life which I admire. I know there are exceptions, I'm just conveying my experiences. 

Look around you at all the 'ugly' men who have found wives and girlfriends. Don't worry so much about your looks (and from what I can see you are a fine-looking man) or on whether a girl is pretty. If you find someone you love, they will be the most beautiful person in the world to you.

How you see yourself and how others see you are sometimes entirely different.

My soul isn't really interested in what your vessel looks like.  What it does care about is you and how you "feel."  Not what others "see."

It doesn't matter if you have a lazy eye, 2 1/2 arms, 3 nipples, a stutter, are brown, white, neon green, or are crippled.

It won't matter what the crowd, including me, thinks of your choice.  We will be silent in your mind.  Some of us don't judge but some do.  Why bother your brain about those?
Your true "other" will see the beauty you have.  You will do the same in them.  You will have a feeling only you can share.  Some people call it "magic."

Trust yourself, your feeling, and "YOUR LOOK."  It is beautiful.  No matter what.
Smile.  :):)  You ARE Worth YOU!  The right person "feel" this, too. 
It is YOUR life.  Share it with those you like and who like you for who you are. 
It won't matter what we look like or what you look like.

AnswerMug is a perfect example.  I like you from your written word.  Hopefully, you like me for the same reason.  The "feeling behind the words not what we look like.  I could be a neurosurgeon and you a super model.  Would it matter?

It doesn't matter to me what you look like.
It matters to me what you ask and say.
That, my dear, is what I look for in a friend or a lover, or a life-companion.
Trust, Truth, Friendship, and Caring.
Those are important. This post was edited by Merlin at July 30, 2020 10:33 PM MDT

How are you ugly? Your pic doesn't appear to be.

Both of my wives are shiksas. This post was edited by Element 99 at July 30, 2020 5:43 AM MDT

Hi franc533, I find you a very handsome guy.
Also, I remember some of your other posts  a while ago about your going through some facial/cosmetic surgery and, I believe you shared you were somehow disappointed in the results. But, again, for me, I see an  attractive, handsome guy - both before and  after your surgery, if your avatars have been updated.

Yet, I know from my own experiences, sometimes I am "my own worst enemy." And if you think you're physically ugly, consider this helpful-to-me saying that a friend shared with me when I was down on myself :





I share all of this only in a friendly and encouraging way.
Be Well!
:)