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If you can only choose one, would you rather understand or be understood?

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Posted - August 16, 2021

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  • 362
    Pretty good perception;)
      August 17, 2021 12:47 PM MDT
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  • 19942
    Thank you. :)
      August 17, 2021 3:17 PM MDT
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  • 10049
    I get that. I think maybe I've accepted that people who know me and don't understand me are never going to, and that's okay. I also know that there are people who do understand or 'get' me and just don't like me. And that's okay, too. 
    Also, I've had a hard time understanding myself in the past and sometimes still do... so there's that. LOL! :)
      August 18, 2021 8:39 PM MDT
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  • 19942
    I learned a long time ago that you can't please everyone, nor should you try.  I don't mean you should be outright rude or mean, but there's nothing wrong with telling someone in a nice way to screw off.  It took me half a lifetime to understand why I did some of things I did, made some of the decisions I made and who I really was.  Now, I'm living the other half with the knowledge that this who I am - take it or leave it.  No matter to me either way.
      August 18, 2021 9:36 PM MDT
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  • 10049
    I hear you 100%. I don't like everyone, not everyone is going to like me. Different strokes for different folks and all that. 
    Learning lessons is so cool. 
      August 19, 2021 4:22 PM MDT
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  • 19942
    Yes, learning is cool. Too bad some folks have their heads in the sand and don't want to know any  more than they do already. 
      August 19, 2021 4:53 PM MDT
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  • 10049
    I thought you were going to say "up their own butts" after heads. ;)

    Yes, it's sad. I think most eventually start to come around a bit. Some, at least. 
      August 19, 2021 5:10 PM MDT
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  • 19942
    I can't imagine why you would have thought that!:):)

    Sometime, things happen that make it impossible to deny the truth and you just have to face it and deal with it.  Those are the lucky ones.
      August 19, 2021 9:28 PM MDT
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  • 10049
    Yes. 
      August 19, 2021 9:31 PM MDT
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  • 17404
    Be understood.  Without that you will never be able to effectively make inquiries, thus,  understand.
      August 16, 2021 9:53 PM MDT
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  • 10049
    I do see your point. I also think there are times when if we concentrate on understanding, our inquiries aren't necessary. 
      August 18, 2021 8:42 PM MDT
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  • 2967
    Understand.
      August 17, 2021 4:10 AM MDT
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  • 10049
    I think we need more understanding! :)
      August 18, 2021 8:46 PM MDT
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  • 492
    I agree. We need more understanding, not understooding.
      August 18, 2021 8:54 PM MDT
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  • 362
    Understand it's just better For me;)
      August 17, 2021 12:46 PM MDT
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  • 10049
    I think you're right. 


      August 18, 2021 8:47 PM MDT
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  • 16262
    "O Divine Master, grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled as to console, to be understood as to understand,  to be loved as to love"
    St Francis of Assisi This post was edited by Slartibartfast at August 22, 2021 6:29 PM MDT
      August 20, 2021 5:14 AM MDT
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  • 520
    You can't be understood if you don't understand.
      August 20, 2021 8:31 AM MDT
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  • 492
    Understood.
    Being understood means you understand.
    If you don't undstand, I'm not undertood.
    Understand?
      August 28, 2021 1:19 PM MDT
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