With the nature of my personality, probably to be understood - - in that, I can fall into worrying that others might misinterpret my meaning and get mad at me. I want to make sure others understand me that I really would not want to anger anyone.
Yeah, I hear this. I feel like I've turned a corner on this a bit, though. I am thinking that the more understanding that I'm able to achieve, it will make it easier to be understood - at least in the ways that it really matters.
I definitely understand what you're saying. I've suffered damage to relationships over being misunderstood - someone taking something I've said in a way I didn't intend or totally not being able to follow where I was trying to go. ( I'm not always the best with linear thinking... or especially talking!).
Yes, I'm much better at knowing and trusting the people in my life that they know I would not purposely intend to anger or insult. However, if I wanted to, it'd be clear and apparent to the other person that I did intend to be blunt with them.
I get, and agree with, your points, along with others' points, about the importance of understanding. I was just admitting to my sometimes-tendency to get overly concerned about how I come across to someone.
Yeah, I get a sense that you're honest and sometimes honest is blunt and many times people don't like honest. I appreciate it so much myself, it's hard for me to be any other way, really.
I appreciate your honest admission and I have thought about this myself quite a bit lately. I know I used to be more concerned with being understood or feeling understood. I don't understand everything or everyone, so I can't expect everyone to understand me. People complicated! :)
I'm honest, yeah. And I think I try to listen to others a lot and try to understand others more than I give myself credit. And I ask friends to help me as I try to understand myself. :)
And "OverThinking Me" strikes again -- I forgot to put a smiley face on my reply there, and I meant to -- the smiley face was to help make sure I'm understood that I meant my reply in a good way. :) Somehow, the smiley face helps me feel better in my communicating using only the written word. :)
I understand. I believe I posted a question about overthinking emojis! Ha!
I'd never think you were anything but kind.
It's good to feel understood, don't get me wrong. It's important, too. It's really how people build real, genuine friendships. Relating and all that. Which goes back to the original question, I guess! It's best to have both! :)
I would rather be able to understand things wholey in order to eliminate irrational or disfunctional thinking.
This post was edited by Kittigate at August 18, 2021 8:21 PM MDT
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