I first bonded with the dog I have now about 5 minuets after I stole him from a party house. Once I got far enough away I held him to my chest and said - dar dar dar the scary lady can't hurt you anymore and it was probably the first calm and reassuring words he had heard in his 8 weeks of life (which is 54 weeks in puppy weeks). The next day I let the scary lady know I had her dog and I wasn't going to give it back and she eventually agreed that the dog was better off with me. The scary lady isn't a scary lady anymore she is 4 years alcohol and drug free and she has a new dog but I let her know that if she mentally hurts that dog I will steal it (then we laugh and laugh). Cheers!