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Randy D

What are some trite and cliché wrong things people say to others when a loved one has died?

 


[Examples:
“It’s better this way.”
“There’s no rhyme or reason.”
“I know exactly how you feel.”
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Posted - September 18, 2021
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  • 13277
    He/she is in a better place. Also this one that a dying friend said and has stuck with me for more than 25 years, "I'm tired and I'm gonna rest." Rest for what?
      September 18, 2021 10:04 PM MDT
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  • 16763
    "It will get easier."
    It doesn't. My mother passed more than six years ago, the wound in my heart is still bleeding.
      September 19, 2021 3:55 AM MDT
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  • 13395
    Did you have lots of life insurance coverage?

    Can you pay me the $200 that bum owes me?

    Since you don't drive can I have the car?
      September 19, 2021 3:57 AM MDT
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  • 17592
    Time will heal.  Time doesn't heal!
      September 19, 2021 1:29 PM MDT
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  • 13277
    Ever hear the saying, "Time wounds all heels?" LOL.
      September 19, 2021 1:33 PM MDT
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  • 17592
    No, but yeah...
      September 19, 2021 1:49 PM MDT
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  • 10052
    Time and experience helps move us through, if we're able to be moved. 
      September 19, 2021 2:44 PM MDT
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  • 10052
    I overheard a highly regarded member of the "Fellowship of Christian Athletes" state that it was too bad she wasn't going to heaven at a friend's funeral. 

    Other than being mean or judgmental, I don't really think of these expressions as "wrong". More misguided and an example of having no desire to learn differently. 
      September 19, 2021 3:01 PM MDT
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  • 2999
    Time heals all wounds. 
      September 19, 2021 3:02 PM MDT
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  • 6023
    "They are in a better place."

    How do you know?
    Also, if Heaven was all that great - why did so many angels rebel?

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    "At least their suffering is over."

    Again, how do you know?
    If they went to Hell, their suffering increased - didn't it?

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    "What are you going to do with all this food?"  

    Seriously, heard that asked at a wake by someone wanting to take the leftovers.
      September 20, 2021 9:19 AM MDT
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