What are things people say about the dead or death that are meant to sound nice, but really aren’t nice?

I come from a Christian belief, so, though I understand others' points, I don't find some of the others' shared comments/answers insensitive.

However, one thing I don't get --

so often in obituaries I read, "So-and-so passed away with his/her loving family at his/her side."

I question why the surviving family feels a need to publicly share that, as if they get brownie points for being there.

I was not physically present when many people whom I love died. That does not make me love them less. And, if I were by someone who dies, it would not make me love them more than those who were not physically present.

And I realize that perhaps my entire answer may be not nice.