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What are things people say about the dead or death that are meant to sound nice, but really aren’t nice?

I know Grandpa’s looking down from heaven…

I hope not, lol.   Eww, he didn’t need to see that.

Posted - November 27, 2022
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  • 23637
    I come from a Christian belief, so, though I understand others' points, I don't find some of the others' shared comments/answers insensitive.

    However, one thing I don't get --

    so often in obituaries I read, "So-and-so passed away with his/her loving family at his/her side."

    I question why the surviving family feels a need to publicly share that, as if they get brownie points for being there.

    I was not physically present when many people whom I love died. That does not make me love them less. And, if I were by someone who dies, it would not make me love them more than those who were not physically present.

    And I realize that perhaps my entire answer may be not nice.
      November 29, 2022 6:26 PM MST
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  • 11087
    I always thought that stating that the person did not die alone provides information and comfort to those reading the obituary. But then, I have often been told I makes excuses for the actions of others. Thanks for sharing another perspective.
      November 29, 2022 6:40 PM MST
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  • 23637
    You're welcome.  :)
    And I thank you for sharing some other perspectives, too.  :)
      November 30, 2022 8:12 PM MST
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  • 5451
    Typically someone at the funeral home writes the obituary with some input from the family, so they might just put that in automatically.
      November 29, 2022 6:57 PM MST
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  • 23637
    Hadn't thought of that. 
    Thanks.  :)
      November 30, 2022 8:12 PM MST
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