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Fellows, just like me, did you begin charming the ladies at a very young age?



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Posted - September 28
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  • 11036
    You were always nerdy.


      September 28, 2024 8:02 PM MDT
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  • 53509

     

      THAT’S how I hooked them, it was my way in! They fell head over heels for me!
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      September 29, 2024 12:16 AM MDT
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  • 11036
    Too bad you turned out looking like this. 

      September 29, 2024 6:37 AM MDT
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  • 53509

     

      Grrrrrrrr. You’re just trying to scare off all your competition by making them think that‘s me. Reality check:

     


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      September 29, 2024 8:04 AM MDT
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  • 11036
    You're the one one the right?
      September 29, 2024 9:48 AM MDT
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  • 53509

     

     The guy standing in the middle. What are you on about this time?


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      September 29, 2024 12:05 PM MDT
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  • 551
    No, and I still haven't learned to at the age of 50. I don't know how typical my experience is, but it is rare indeed for a woman to show any verbal or non-verbal sign of interest in me in real life, even momentarily. Maybe three times in the last twenty years.
      September 29, 2024 2:50 AM MDT
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  • 2128
    Your family dynamically is part of you so we're your factored influenced. Being 64 right now and having three older brothers and a tomboy older sister and a macho dad and neutral mom engrained in me a dynamic I don't want to be thwarted by emotional shananigans or mannerisms at all. I consider it a waste of time.
    Women are to be admired from afar for me that's all. This post was edited by CosmicWunderkind at September 29, 2024 2:55 PM MDT
      September 29, 2024 6:00 AM MDT
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  • 3757
    Why do you think that is?
      September 29, 2024 7:19 AM MDT
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  • 551
    I believe the biggest reason is my autism. Up until at least my mid-30s, my limited social skills and underdeveloped emotional intelligence would probably have made me undatable. I have been on an upward trend since then, many aspects of my life have improved and I feel I can carry myself pretty well in social situations, but I may give off subtle clues in body language and facial expressions. I am still on a self-improvement journey, I'm trying to learn to be more spontaneous and less of an over-thinker.
      September 30, 2024 10:48 AM MDT
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  • 3757
    Autism is a hard road, but I'm happy that you are making such progress.  I worked for an attorney who was on the spectrum and it was difficult at first but I got used to him and we got along fine after that.  We should all be on a self-improvement journey for out entire lives.  Good luck to you.
      September 30, 2024 2:37 PM MDT
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  • 11036
    Maybe they are too subtle for you to realize when they are.
      September 29, 2024 9:49 AM MDT
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  • 23586

    Nope.


      September 29, 2024 12:34 PM MDT
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  • 1502
    I thought I cursed myself a little in that regard after declining a girl’s marriage proposal when she and I were about 7. In the end, I’d say luck compensated for lack of charm. A whole lotta luck for a very big lack.
      September 29, 2024 1:04 PM MDT
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  • 2128
    I am not a women hater but being on the end of the totem pole I feel crushed by all I saw and see. I don't want to explain but I can't conceal my emotions when I see the obvious treachery coming at me and continually today miserably be! This post was edited by CosmicWunderkind at September 29, 2024 5:25 PM MDT
      September 29, 2024 2:58 PM MDT
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