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Baybreeze

Ladies, what do you think about a guy asking for pics of your body?

Maybe not a nude per se, but legs, or maybe tummy... I am not sure I still enjoy it. It could be b/c I'm already self conscious of my body, and want to lose 20 pounds, but, in general do you kind of write off a guy who asks for pics (while getting to know him) of something other than your face, or do you just go along /try to have fun with it .. ?

Posted - March 8, 2017
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  • 5808
    watch out for perverts.
    I would not engage in that kinda stuff,
    doesn't sound like he wants to know you
    at all...just some sex thrills 
      March 8, 2017 5:15 PM MST
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  • 5354
    I would give it a flat no. The typical sequence go something like this: "Just a pic of your beautiful face", "just a pic of your pretty legs", , , And when it gets to where you say NO: "What a stuckup Ho you are! I will photoshop what i have together for your Hatepage on Facebook".
      March 8, 2017 5:19 PM MST
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  • That"s a warning signal, Baybreeze. Innocent photographs today, explicit tomorrow, porn star next week. It would be a mistake to trust a boyfriend -- especially one you're just getting to know -- with something that could end up on the Web.
      March 8, 2017 5:23 PM MST
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  • Always be careful hun... having said that if you have been talking for two years and he is respectful  and a nice person then it's a different ball game ... take everything into consideration but You make the decision  not him
      March 8, 2017 5:24 PM MST
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  • Write. 
    Him.
    Off.
      March 8, 2017 6:24 PM MST
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  • 7938
    Not all of them are looking for sexual photos when they say they want to see a picture of your body. It's pretty common, especially in dating situations, for guys to want to see proof that you have their preferred body type- some want to make sure you're not overweight and others are hoping for more curves. It's hard to be able to gauge if someone is a healthy weight based on a head shot.

    With that said, I second what everyone else here said about being safe. And, I'll add that I won't ever send body photos when someone asks for them, but being judged based on my physical appearance bothers me and if someone cares that much about my body, the relationship has no hope anyway. I see that as a vanity thing and I won't share their values anyway, so it's a moot point.
      March 8, 2017 6:28 PM MST
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  • 1138
    Yes I really think if they are trying to 'guage' as you said, your body in a full body pic it is a turn off. I feel the exact same way. I just never ask for full body pics, b/c I just don't care. I f I like your overall look, if it is friendly or even if I DON'T see a pic at all for a while, it's cool, as long as the Person itself is cool, that's key to me. I often feel am I being prudish? If I feel taken aback when asked for one, but esp. when it is within one conversation, I then think, No I'm not. I prob. would not be asking a guy to show me his abs, etc.... Ty J  :)
      March 8, 2017 9:48 PM MST
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  • 5451
    It's a turn off when it's the first or second thing they ask for in chat.
      March 8, 2017 6:30 PM MST
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  • 7790
    I wouldn't need any pictures of you anyway and as far as I'm concerned, I'm on your time.
      March 8, 2017 7:41 PM MST
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  • 7790
    I'm just offering something to you that no one else has. This post was edited by Zack at March 8, 2017 8:02 PM MST
      March 8, 2017 7:50 PM MST
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  • 1138
    Thanks Winged ... I agree with all of that !! I think someone I've known longer than a month or two might qualify to have a pic of (not nude lol) maybe a full body pic.... nudes would be for me, if I'm getting serious about feelings for someone... hehe, ty so much again :)
      March 8, 2017 9:50 PM MST
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  • I suppose my first reaction would be shock.  If it were a serious request I'd tell him to bugger off! 
      March 8, 2017 9:56 PM MST
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  • 1138
    Well it was a request for leg pic.. so not really 'nude' but i still felt, hmm, like someone is evaluating me??
      March 10, 2017 11:47 AM MST
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  • Go with your gut feeling.  He is evaluating you.  Any request for a picture of a specific part of the body should raise a big red flag.  If you are looking for advice I'd tell you to cut off all contact immediately a decent man would not ask you to send a picture of your legs.  He's bloody weird!
      March 10, 2017 9:59 PM MST
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  • 1138
    Ty Yoga :) I have backed away a lot- it made me feel quite insecure to ask for legs, although we had such a good chat... ah well, maybe he'll realize why I backed away, not sure. Ty again, hope u are well!
      March 10, 2017 10:03 PM MST
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  • 22891
    he sounds like a perv
      March 9, 2017 11:45 AM MST
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  • The only rule I think you should follow is your own internal comfort meter... for some, to send ONLY a picture of the.face is enough. While others feel ok with a full gluteal performance. 
    Whatever or wherever your line falls, should be respected. Period.
      March 10, 2017 11:42 AM MST
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  • 1138
    It is interesting;most guys always ask if they are chatting online, what your body type is, and I don't mind saying, well I'm curvy... but then they want full body pics, and I just feel you don't care WHO I am, you want to know what I am :/ and, someone had requested fromme, leg pic, to see what legs look like, and while it is not 'nude' I just felt, I guess they only want a physical dynamic really ... :/  Ty for saying it should be respected though.. I also feel, am I a prude? when I don't feel like sending one of my body (legs, bra, etc) ... but I don't think I'd ever ask a guy, can u send me your bicepts pic? or abs? Obviously I'd only care about his body lol
      March 10, 2017 11:50 AM MST
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  • That's the.point right there!
    What if you are a prude? What if the guy thinks you're a prude? 
    So?
    We could conversely ask, what if the.guy thinks im too slutty.
    The guy and his expectations don't matter. 
    It is whatever you are.comfortable with. Regardless of how much or little you show.
    And about asking a guy for a.picture of his biceps for example, just because you want to see them. That doesn't mean that you have to respond in kind, it's.up to him to send them or not.
    Does it make you comfortable what he's asking for? Yes. Go for it.
    If it doesn't, then you don't, that's.that.
      March 10, 2017 12:04 PM MST
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  • 1138
    Well if they think I'm a prude, it makes me feel less, or less of a woman, and less desirable. But I really liked how you said the 'guy and his expectations don't matter'... I've lived the COMPLETE opposite of that, and never dated b/c of it :(  I think what they want is most important, and that I will somehow in some way , fall short of their expectation... I don't usually feel as pretty or thin or confident as other women so I think, they'll know that and ditch me. I live my romantic life (lack of ) around a guys expectation, and then I just decline dates b/c I feel I can't be what they want.. having anxiety about travel (most want to travel) also affects that, and it makes me so sad, b/c I want love, and to give it and to cuddle and touch, yet this hold s me back so much. I liked also you said , whatever makes ME comfortable is it... and it is fine. Ty for that L ....
      March 10, 2017 12:10 PM MST
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  • What I think doesn't even matter. 
    But im just telling the way it is. Fat,.curvy, skinny, none of that matters.as.much as.women think.
    What's important is how comfortable you are with yourself, that's what comes out from you, and others see it and those like you will be attracted by it. 
    You keep faking it. 
    And you'll never find those that are.going to like you as you are, prude and all...or slutty.....or whatever. This post was edited by Benedict Arnold at March 10, 2017 12:25 PM MST
      March 10, 2017 12:22 PM MST
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