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What things are deal-breakers for you when it comes to a potential partner's past?

If you like everything about someone and their past is well behind them, what things may still influence whether you'll date them or not? Would having committed specific crimes matter? Jail time? Promiscuity? Prior marriages?  ??? What are your deal-breakers that relate to a partner's history?

Posted - March 14, 2017
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  • 7280
    Well, in a weird way, Charlie Sheen is obviously open-minded in that area.
      March 14, 2017 12:19 PM MDT
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  • lol :) what's that mean Tom? :)
      March 14, 2017 5:53 PM MDT
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  • 7280
    Seems to me he lived with two ex adult film starts for a while.
      March 15, 2017 10:18 AM MDT
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  • Nagging and passive-aggressiveness.


    Oh and incurable STD's
      March 14, 2017 12:21 PM MDT
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  • It would depend on the nature of the crime. If that person's past indicated the capacity for meanness that was likely to re-surface at some time then I'd stay away.
      March 14, 2017 12:56 PM MDT
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  • 3375
    A deal breaker for me is if he had any rape or molestation in his past.  That sort of thing doesn't readily go away, even with an effort to "turn a new leaf".
      March 14, 2017 1:00 PM MDT
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  • 184
    I guess for me it would be if the past was over, not necessarily forgotten but not effecting the present or future in a negative way. 
      March 14, 2017 2:43 PM MDT
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  • 7280
    Absolutely---

    Unless the past can be separated from the future, it is still present.
      March 14, 2017 2:48 PM MDT
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  • 6124
    Accusations of murder would be a deal breaker for me.  Also smoking, yelling/bad temper,/verbally abusive, lying, poor hygiene, no sense of humor, making assumptions, jumping to conclusions, complaining all the time, no compassion, won't take responsibility for own actions, no self-confidence, worrying all the time, bad mouthing exes in front of the children, dog (animal) hater, and refusing to work/living off the gov't without a valid reason.  
      March 14, 2017 2:54 PM MDT
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  • 3375
    Oh dear...you just described a few of my exes.  LOL.  No fear though.  I got it right this time for sure!
      March 15, 2017 12:07 PM MDT
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  • 6124
    Very good to hear!
      
      March 15, 2017 4:14 PM MDT
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  • 7280
    Actually, I dated a girl many years ago who had shot her husband prior to their divorce.

    Three points to make---1)  it was necessary; 2)  he recovered nicely;   and 3) no charges were ever filed.

    Good woman, good mother, good person.






      March 14, 2017 3:00 PM MDT
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  • 508
    they always have STD's.. maybe i should find someone who isn't a ho ho ho.
      March 14, 2017 3:30 PM MDT
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  •   March 14, 2017 6:04 PM MDT
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  • 508
    Your cat is a good lover Rooster but i prefer the hound 
      March 15, 2017 12:26 PM MDT
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  • 3375
    Hahahahaha Skunky.  A ho ho ho.

    This post was edited by PeaPod is just popping by at March 15, 2017 12:26 PM MDT
      March 15, 2017 12:08 PM MDT
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  • 508
    HE HE HE HE HO HO HO merry christmas ;)
      March 15, 2017 12:35 PM MDT
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  • This question is funny / strange for me cos  seeing allots of obvious answers( murder , pedi, nag.....ect. .....:)) I wouldn't want someone with past like I have.... Compare everyone to someone I hold in highest regard cos they left this world too very soon. So I wouldn't want someone like me. Meh! Also no one who dated someone better looking  than me .... Cos I said so :) 
      March 14, 2017 6:01 PM MDT
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  • 53519


    10. "She" was born a man and has switched over. 

    9.  "She" was born a woman, switched over and had since switched back. 

    8.  "She" was born a man. 

    7.  Felon, criminal history, ex-con, in and out of jail or prison. 

    6.  Addiction history. 

    5.  Virgin. 

    4.  Bigot. 

    3.  Has killed men because of their faults. 

    2.  Obsessed with coffee. 

    1.  Is an anti-tildite. 

    ~
      March 14, 2017 8:20 PM MDT
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  • I thought you were being a little harsh till I got to the end of the list. Those anti-tildites never change. I wouldn't consider one of those, either.
      March 14, 2017 8:26 PM MDT
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  • 16819
    I've never met anybody who was born a man, or born a woman either. Everybody I've ever met was born a baby.
      March 14, 2017 10:27 PM MDT
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  • 3523
    I think being raised by mountain gorillas would be a deal breaker for me.  I'm not too particular.  ^.^.
      March 14, 2017 8:58 PM MDT
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  • 16819
    If she used to be a man, that would have bothered me. I wanted a family and adoption is expensive.
      March 14, 2017 10:25 PM MDT
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  • 7683
    Hi JA, hypothetically speaking a potential partner should be free of all vices you mentioned;))
      March 14, 2017 11:52 PM MDT
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