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RosieG

Some folks respect themselves, some don't. The don'ters are the ones who stay in absuive relationships. Would you?

They think they don't deserve any better so they take whatever is dished out. I know there are individuals like that. They believe no one else will want them and they don't want to be alone so they grovel and subject themselves to being treated like trash. I never thought that an entire political party could be like that. But you see what has happened to the once-proud Republican party. Never in a million years would I have foreseen this turn of events.

Posted - June 30, 2017
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  • 6477
    I get what you mean... and you are perfectly right about the people in abusive relationships... I'd add, (not that you said otherwise) that it's often not their fault they don't respect themselves or have the strength to fight against things) and I therefore think that's entirely different to the political scene.. 

    In abusive relationships there's been a history, a reason why the person has lost respect, and as I say it's rarely their fault... In the political arena that's not the case, these are supposedly powerful people with minds of their own, not abused people who have been told their whole life they are useless and worthless... they should know better and one wonders if in the political arena it's more to do with sucking up, being cowardly and greed and having no backbone. 
      June 30, 2017 10:35 AM MDT
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  • 3375
    I think those that come from an abusive background often don't know any better.  Most people initially gravitate to their "comfort zone".  You only learn to raise the bar with time and experience if it wasn't taught to you at home.  
      June 30, 2017 11:04 AM MDT
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  • 22891
    no, i would never stay in an abusive relationship, not sure why others would
      June 30, 2017 1:28 PM MDT
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  • 46117
    You have to be SCARED to death to stay.   There is always an element of the insecure, but being brainwashed by the abuser is the reason. 
      June 30, 2017 1:29 PM MDT
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  • 6023

    Not always true.

    I know many females who are/were in abusive relationships.  The majority of them stayed because "I can change him".  And all he has to do, is tell them he's sorry and "it will never happen again" and they will forgive anything he does.  They know they are being abused, but honestly believe they will eventually change the behavior by tolerating it.

      June 30, 2017 1:35 PM MDT
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  • 3375
    I think self esteem plays a major role in this.   You actually "believe" in what your abuser is telling you; that they say and do what they do because you made them do it.  

    It is a sort of brainwashing.  The abuse never starts right away.  Most abusers are very smart and very much in control.  They know just how much to give before letting down the boom.  If you go to leave them, they will first try and hit you up with their charm.  If that doesn't work, you often need a restraining order since they rarely take the answer "no", lightly.
      June 30, 2017 1:42 PM MDT
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