SIGH. Yes. I believe a heart is shattered and splinters remain behind no matter how hard you try to retrieve all of them. Thank you for your reply LO. Of course you read between the lines for which I thank you! :)
I think so. As time goes by I realize how much happier I am when I'm away from the person who broke my heart. We had good times, but it wasn't all good and sometimes you need space to see that. After time you start to look at other people and forget that person. Occasionally I remember making love to her and I have the urge to text her and talk about old times, but then I remember the pain she caused me and I have a beer and go to sleep. I wake up the next morning and go on with my life. So yes, I think you can move on after a broken heart especially if you meet someone wonderful. Good luck.
My initial thought was yes you can move on.. and you can... you keep breathing, eating, sleeping, working.. and you can meet someone else and try again..but see the qualifier is those pieces left behind that you mentioned and LO mentioned... yep that's true.. there's always those pieces left and sometimes, even years later they can still cut.. or worse, we are more afraid of being cut and this can affect how trusting we are and how much we give next time
LOL that's a closely guarded secret.. I never tell.. but I can say, I don't have love.. I don't expect to get it.. I have found peace with that and I have many other things in life that make me happy. I had more adventures than most people can dream of while looking for love.. I am happy to concentrate on my studies and hopefully a new career, my family, my home and my garden.
Well, isn't that what most people do after a breakup. I have read romantic novels about people pining away, but have never heard of it actually happening. (well one instance. Where the couple suicided after finding they could not get married. There was a movie: Elvira Madigan)
That's a kind of heartbreak that can't be matched. My thoughts go out to you <3 I can't imagine going through something like that! Props to you for continuing to live your life as normally as you know how to do it.
I do think it's possible. I have done it myself, but it didn't just happen with time. I had to dedicate a lot of time and work toward it but I made it happen. I picked them up and moved on. The pieces still fit together but they are definitely different, as others have mentioned.
The experience alters the heart and the spirit. Whatever the cause, whether it be death, unrequited love, or disappointment, we recover, but we emerge as something slightly different than before. Mentally, spiritually and emotionally we are touched for all time. Most recover and most bear the scars.
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