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Benedict Arnold

As an adult have you ever confessed to someone that you had a crush on them in your school days and if so what happened?

I actually did it three to four times believe it or not, LoL!
Once was fairly recently. I contacted a woman through Facebook to talk about old times and somehow the conversation ended up with me talking about how much I liked her perfume that she wore in school and how if I could smell it by our lockers it made me so happly because I knew she was in school that day.
Anyway, there was more to that conversation because we did hang out and party a lot together in school, but she's getting married again so that's that.
Another woman I talked to on Facebook I admitted to having a crush on as a child and we still talk occasionally on Facebook to this day and I still think she's nice.
Another woman I talked to in a bar one time and just confessed everything to her about being so infatuated with her in highschool that I could barely talk to her.
She was my grad escort and she kinda bumped into me years later and she seemed like she was interested, but I was married by that point.
Wait I just thought of like a fifth woman that I had a crush on and well maybe this is some kinda pattern with me?
Maybe I should look into why I had so many crushes, it seems kinda excessive.

Anyway, did you ever confess to a long lost crush and did it lead to love or just embarrassment? 

Posted - July 28, 2017
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  • Nope... when I was in grade school I did have a crush on one boy in my class in grade 2ish. He was mean to me though. So I grabbed his head and pushed it into a brick wall Against the school.  I got in trouble. That's the only crush I remember. We are friends now on Facebook. I don't have a crush on him anymore though :) I forget the question :/ 
      July 28, 2017 4:35 PM MDT
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  • Thanks for replying to my question.
    I think I have a crush on you now. ; )
      July 28, 2017 4:42 PM MDT
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  • You're welcome :) *sigh* I will add you to my list of admirerers ;) 
      July 28, 2017 4:44 PM MDT
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  • 22891
    no cause i moved away so i dont see anyone from my school days
      July 28, 2017 4:46 PM MDT
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  • 7939
    This is a fun article. It's called, "Never Bang Your Unicorn." lol 

    Yes and no. Not in the sense you're doing. I've met up with old friends and old boyfriends. We've laughed and talked about the times, but it kind of stopped there. No interest in either direction, really. The couple of times there was, it ended awkwardly. Very awkwardly. Good guys, but the past belongs in the past. 
      July 28, 2017 4:57 PM MDT
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  • Yeah I guess you're right.
    The first woman I talked to I actually did kinda hook up with her in highschool, but it was after playing a drinking game together and she won.
    I was so smashed and inexperienced that I don't really recall what happened that night, but it couldn't have been great and I let her go after that and actually forgot about her once I met my now ex wife, but after getting separated I just have this almost OCD like compulsion to make sure that all the women I had a thing for are not gonna happen first so I can mentally be free before I venture out into the world of online dating and meet someone completely new and start over.
    I almost hope they don't work out so I can unfriend them and move on.
    I think I seriously do have obsessive compulsive disorder because I love to organize things and I feel like I need to get those women completely out of my head including my ex so I can move on completely.
    I know I'm strange right? This post was edited by Benedict Arnold at July 29, 2017 2:02 PM MDT
      July 28, 2017 5:40 PM MDT
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  • 7939
    Not really. It's nice to get confirmation from "safe bets" that you're still the same person you were and that you're still attractive or whatever. I think a lot of people do the same thing you do. When you're feeling vulnerable, I think it's only natural to protect yourself by touching base with the ones you feel are safe. I'm not saying that's what you're doing, but I do think that's the natural inclination. 
      July 29, 2017 2:06 PM MDT
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  • Maybe you're right because I think after getting out of a long relationship I'm less interested in being with these women that I haven't known for 20 years and more interested finding the old me through them.
    They changed and moved on, except one that seems sweet as ever and it confuses me, but anyway I guess this revisiting of my past is just necessary for me to move on because when I met my ex I quit drinking left a lot of my old friends and lost contact and just kinda went into our own little world together so without her I feel like I'm regressing back to the year 2000 before I met her and looking around to see where all my old friends and love interests are only to find that life went on without me.
    Now I get to start over as a dad and make a new life.
    I feel like I should be paying you for this counseling session Just Asking,
    Thanks. : )
      July 29, 2017 2:58 PM MDT
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  • 46117
    Nope
      July 28, 2017 5:42 PM MDT
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  • 17596
    No but a guy told me that; he recently found me on facebook.  I didn't say anything.  I never responded to the PM.  
      July 28, 2017 6:57 PM MDT
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  • 53509

    Nope, no such luck on my part. 
    ~
      July 29, 2017 5:33 AM MDT
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  • 17596
    I'm sure they are just too embarrassed to tell you.  The guy who told me was a fool, and he probably still is.  
      July 29, 2017 2:46 PM MDT
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  • 7126
    My lunch lady was flattered and gave me a nice square of pizza and a half pint of milk. Then took off her hairnet and went out for a smoke.
      July 29, 2017 5:39 AM MDT
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  • That's funny, LoL! : )
      July 29, 2017 7:11 AM MDT
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  • 7126
    ;-)
      July 29, 2017 7:15 AM MDT
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