Hmm interesting... I suspect those who are living their life revolving around someone else would be the last to recognise this.. I guess in a way my life revolves around my daughter.. it always has as she has additional needs/disabilities including ADHD.. so she is hard work and much of my time and life are spend in trying to prevent and avoid problems, and, of course in dealing with them when they happen. To some extend while she will always have problems, it does get easier as they get older - I had the same thing with my sons - it's almost like they just need several extra years to mature.. so I have every hope that one day she will need me a lot less..
Will I be sad and bereft? Not a blooming bit of it! I will revel in my freedom and my free time.. I will wallow in my tidy house that no matter how much I clean and tidy always looks a mess, and my not having to do so much for other people.. I will read more, I will garden more, I may take up a new hobby, I will hopefully travel more :)
((hugs)) Did I tell you lately that I luv you Addb? I so ADORE your response. I wish more folks had that same exact attitude. Thank you for your awesomely splendid reply! A gold star reply if ever there was one! :)
No. If something should happen to my daughter I would not get over it, but my life does not revolve around her. She is an adult with her own life and that is the way we both want it to be.
I have good friends. I would never revolve my life around them but if anything happened to them, I would be bereft.
I wish to be so financially secure that I do not have to depend on anyone for anything. I would like to be only in people's lives because I wish to be and they wish me to be. No more revolving. I am terrified of the prospect of going through what my cousin did. She was married for close to 50 years to her husband who died of cancer. The pain of what she endured is not worth it. I'm sure she has decades of memories that are more than worth it to her? I do not envy her situation at all. It is hard to accept death when you have no understanding of the fact that you will be united again after this life. No one goes far. No one leaves. We are in each other's lives for a reason and that reason does not die with this body.
That is why people have other people revolving. They are attached and cannot bear the thought of permanent departure. It sucks to think that way. I cannot live there.
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