Had a local mechanic put in a rebuilt engine in my truck it fell apart within the first few months and I had to get a new engine. HE refused to be responsible $3000.00 it cost me and it took a long time to save that much... then I had to spend another $3000.00 for a new engine...no fun... no olive branch ever unless he became responsible and reimbursed me for his crappy engine.
It isn't with me either really. I've done a lot of things I've been forgiven for and prolly shouldn't have been. I can hold an awful grudge as well. I just try not to the best I can.
You've been forgiven when you shouldn't have been, yet YOU refuse to forgive? Pretty telling of you. You could learn something from those with a bigger heart.
A wise person once said, "Sometimes people jump to conclusions at first glance. That's why it's always a good idea to reserve judgment until you give yourself a chance to get to know someone."
Not as much as it would have in the past. Depending on the issue, it can be very hard. Also forgiveness doesn't mean trust.
(Matthew 6:12) and forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. (Matthew 18:21, 22) Then Peter came and said to him: “Lord, how many times is my brother to sin against me and am I to forgive him? Up to seven times?” 22 Jesus said to him: “I say to you, not up to seven times, but up to 77 times. (Colossians 3:13) Continue putting up with one another and forgiving one another freely even if anyone has a cause for complaint against another. Just as Jehovah freely forgave you, you must also do the same. (1 Peter 4:8) Above all things, have intense love for one another, because love covers a multitude of sins.
(Proverbs 14:15) The naive person believes every word, But the shrewd one ponders each step. (Proverbs 27:12) The shrewd person sees the danger and conceals himself, But the inexperienced keep right on going and suffer the consequences.
That being said, I often have to agree with the words of Glis above: "Time and a noticeable personal change and sense of remorse."
Baba 