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RosieG

I KNOW there's male/female in all of us. But some men are very girly and some gals are very macho. Hysterial rants from men who are girly?

A macho guy would never get hysterical and go on a rant against anyone or anything for ANY REASON . Neither would a macho gal. A girly girl might but it wouldn't last for long. It takes a LOT OF ENERGY AND DEVOTION and FOCUS so that a girly man most definitely could do that. Sad though. We expect our men to be like Gary Cooper or Sean Connery. Strong, capable, steadfast, unafraid. We don't expect them to go berserk over anything. Like McGyver...they always find a solution at hand and save the day. You can't save the day while you are ranting and raving and attacking and insulting and act out of control. Ya gotta FOCUS on what is most important and not get distracted by minutae. Ya gotta. Ya just  gotta! :)

Posted - October 29, 2017
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  • 6988
    I'm a guy, but I always wondered why I have nipples.
      October 29, 2017 10:08 AM MDT
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  • 7280
    Why Do Men Have Nipples?
    Nipples are a vestige of our early, gender-bending days in the womb.
    Men can't nurse babies, so why on Earth do they have nipples?
    The answer has to do with how humans develop in the womb, said Ian Tattersall, a paleoanthropologist at the American Museum of Natural History in New York City.
    "Basically, males and females are all built from the same genetic blueprint," Tattersall told Live Science. "Then, [they] develop in slightly different directions [in utero and] particularly after we hit puberty."
    During the first several weeks, male and female embryos follow the same blueprint, which includes the development of nipples. However, at about six to seven weeks of gestation, a gene on the Y chromosome induces changes that lead to the development of the testes, the organ that makes and stores sperm and produces testosterone, according to the book "Exploring the Biological Contributions to Human Health: Does Sex Matter?"
    After the testes are formed, the male fetus begins producing testosterone at about nine weeks of gestation, changing the genetic activity of cells in the genitals and brain. But by then, those nipples aren't going anywhere.
    Human development explains why males have nipples. But why do men keep this vestigial structure? (A vestigial body part does not serve an evolutionary purpose.)
    For starters, having nipples isn't detrimental for males. "There's no real metabolic cost to having nipples," Tattersall said.
    Furthermore, just because men don't need nipples, it's not exactly an evolutionary priority to get rid of them.
    "The fact is that we carry a lot of evolutionary baggage around with us," Tattersall said. "Natural selection is not hovering there all of the time to get rid of things we absolutely don't need."

    https://www.livescience.com/32467-why-do-men-have-nipples.html


      October 29, 2017 1:18 PM MDT
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  • 113301
    You have? Hm. That thought never occurred to me bh. Thank you for your reply! :)
      October 30, 2017 4:39 AM MDT
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  • 6988
    I have also heard that a handful of men die of breast cancer every year! 
      November 5, 2017 1:46 AM MST
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  • 113301
    I have heard of that too bh which does seem quite strange. Thank you for your reply and Happy Sunday. I'm pretty sure it isn't a diagnosis a male would expect! :)
      November 5, 2017 1:54 AM MST
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  • 5450
    I think it's natural for both men and women to fall somewhere in-between girly and macho so trying to strictly follow gender stereotypes would be kind of exhausting.

    My mom gets on my case because I don't always follow gender roles in my marriage.  My husband does most of the cooking and my mom has a problem with that because she thinks the woman should always cook but I'm just not very good at it so I think the spouse who does a better job at something should be the one who gets to do it the most.
      October 29, 2017 1:38 PM MDT
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  • 113301
    That's just common sense. The person who does the best job should do it. If a gal can repair cars and a guy is a great cook let her be the family "fix-it" person and let him do the cooking. But I do expect my guy to be strong and not get hysterical. Hysterical men are not my cuppa tea. I want my guy to tell me "it'll be okay honey. Don't worry". I don't want him frantically going off half-cocked ranting and raving via twitter daily with all his fears/fantasies/lies. That isn't manly. That is the hallmark of a girlyman and embarrassing. Thank you for your reply Livvie and Happy Monday! :) This post was edited by RosieG at October 30, 2017 4:44 AM MDT
      October 30, 2017 4:43 AM MDT
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  • 22891
    thats true
      October 29, 2017 2:50 PM MDT
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  • 6098
    I think we have to let people be what they want whether we like it or are comfortable with it or not. Many men are good at "saving the day" but that doesn't mean we can look to ALL men to do that.  We have to develop our own personal sense of what it means to be male or female which is partly derived from our background and how we are socialized.  "Girly girl" and "macho" are very much in the eye of the beholder which can sometimes take people to laughable and ridiculous extremes.  Somehow I learned to change tires early on and have always done so while the "macho" men I have been with are still ranting about it. And make no mistake they do rant in their own ways! We all do and I think that comes pretty naturally and does not require much energy.  Maybe you are referring to a more "girly" kind of rant but if people want to rant they usually don't hesitate.  Of course there is a time for ranting and a time for doing something about it!

    Growing up I was not very "girly" because I was not pretty or beautiful like my friends and cousins and my brothers' wives. So I didn't think much of myself and had to develop other dimensions both internal and external to get over in life. Eventually I realized my 'girliness" was very internal but very much there and I still made friends and had guys interested in me and was able to learn to help others despite my lack of "looks".  Much of what I naturally do would be considered traditional women's activities - like cooking and cleaning and nurturing which I have always done. On the other hand I have held down a moderately demanding corporate position for over a quarter of a century - though it is more in the nature of caring for others than creative.

    I just want to people to be whole and themselves whatever that means to them.  Srereotypes are only stereotypes and though they may have their origins in definite traits and tendencies they can end up being as much fiction as fact.
      October 30, 2017 6:06 AM MDT
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