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RosieG

I admit I've been very spoiled. All the important men in my life treated me with respect. I thought most all men were like that. Did you?

Whether it was romantic interests or male family members or male  friends or male co-workers I never remember anyone ever saying "boys will be boys" or "that was just lockeroom talk". There was just one time when a male co-worker said something that offended me. I told him it did and he apologized. I don't suffer in silence. Now I KNOW when guys are together alone away from women the conversation is different. I expect it would be. "Lockeroom talk"  belongs in a lockeroom. Period. Except that is not the case in the real world. It seems many folks don't mind it at all and maybe even indulge in it on occasion themselves whenever and wherever. It is no big deal for them. Not important. Of no consequence. SIGH. I wonder why?

Posted - November 5, 2017
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  • 14795
    All male members of my whole family are very very protective of the females in it Rosie......in turn the females dote on them ......Lol

    Not all men are pigs Rosie......it takes but a few to tarnish so many though...... There are plenty of women that do the same as men ,yet we never hear about what they do as it doesn't sell newspapers......

    Generally,people only want to hear about the bad guys out there.....and the fact is there is also the same amount of bad a Gals to .... 
      November 5, 2017 7:51 AM MST
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  • 113301
    I can't argue that NJ. I don't know if I told you this before but once my sis and I were invited to a bridal shower. The "entertainment" was a guy in a g-string gyrating to music that had the gals going crazy as they placed money inside it. My sis and I just got up and left. No one noticed. Women can be just as disgusting as men. Sadly. I'm glad your experiences have been as good as mine NJ. So you will NEVER defend the bada** male who demeans/abuses/mistreats women! Me too neither! Thank you for your thoughtful reply m'dear :)
      November 5, 2017 9:25 AM MST
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  • 6988
    Jugs is right. I have heard my wife and her female friends talk mean and nasty about various subjects. One of her 'friends' came over to me and shoved her bra and associated parts into my face on a 'dare'.  Yikes! 
      November 5, 2017 9:54 AM MST
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  • 14795
    Who knows why people go off the rails for a bit.....,a bereavement can have strange effects on people as their brains go haywire....

    Maybe be doing something a bit crazy and risqué is a way of protecting ones brain chemically ....endorphins are released and no one gets hurt...
      November 5, 2017 11:51 AM MST
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  • 3463
    The men that I know do treat me with respect because I have earned it.
    But some men don't respect anyone or anything not even themselves.
      November 5, 2017 8:41 AM MST
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  • 113301
    You "earned" it? How Lulu'sMom? I was always just being me. I don't know if I "earned" it. It was just always there for me. Thank you  for your reply m'dear! :)
      November 5, 2017 9:26 AM MST
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  • 3463
    You have earned respect Rosie just by being you.
      November 5, 2017 9:39 AM MST
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  • 7280
    Some of us have moved far along the scale from potency to act and have what is called greater "density of being."  First we are and then we act.
    Well tend to have a certain "presence" that is palpable to others.

    Others respond by consciously or unconsciously realizing that respect for is is demanded because of what we are.
      November 5, 2017 9:48 AM MST
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  • 19937
    I have been treated well by the men in my life with two exceptions.  One boyfriend became increasingly controlling over a five year period and I had to end that relationship.  The other was an attorney I worked with who peppered me with unwanted "romantic" attention.  Nothing I said convinced him that I had absolutely no interest in him.  The more forcefully I rejected him, the more inappropriate was his attention.  I finally had enough and gave my two weeks' notice.  His partner offered me a $5,000 annual raise if I would stay and I declined.  He knew what the partner was doing, but he brought in so much business that nothing was done beyond offering secretaries more money to stay. 
      November 5, 2017 10:46 AM MST
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  • 22891
    youre lucky, guys wont even ask me out, i have no idea why
      November 5, 2017 4:44 PM MST
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