In some ways, i need to give myself credit perhaps. those first three points you wrote-- I've been trying to do those, perhaps not consciously or in those exact words but they're close enough. And if I do those first three, perhaps the fourth may happen. I could hope so.
I am thinking why not be a "wimp" whatever that means to you. If in trying to save face you are only losing it. You are not specific but I think its good for us to understand that we are not in control of everything nor should we try to be. Perhaps you need to let go of things and just watch them recede into the distance of their own accord. Always good to continue with the things that give your life meaning and enjoyment on a daily basis. That help you be happy.
Becoming older we can't help but see contexts and references change. Having grown up preparing ourselves to deal with the way they once were. Then we find that way is gone or assumed no longer valid. Well it is still valid for us if that is what we have lived and what we have prepared for.
Danilo_G 