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When you have been wronged, do you ever seek revenge?

I don't.  I feel the most empowered when I have some sense of forgiveness; even if it means I choose to not have contact with someone again.  How about you?


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Posted - March 21, 2018

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  • 3463
    Yes I do depending on who it is and what they have done.
    And it might not even be for me. It might be for a family member or a friend that I will seek revenge for.
      March 21, 2018 12:45 PM MDT
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  • 3375
    I do have a strong sense of outrage when I have a loved one gets hurt, even more than for myself.  I may not seek revenge, but I am not beyond confronting someone doing the wrong.  
      March 21, 2018 3:26 PM MDT
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  • 8214
    No, I do not. 
      March 21, 2018 12:57 PM MDT
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  • 3375
    Thank-you MorningStar.
      March 21, 2018 3:27 PM MDT
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  • 1128
    There have been a few times I've taken revenge in the past. If they have wronged me NOW I wait until they get their just rewards ALL on their own. 
      March 21, 2018 1:14 PM MDT
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  • 3463
    Sometimes a little payback just feels good.
      March 21, 2018 2:02 PM MDT
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  • 7280
    True, but that good feeling comes from knowing that you have done the right thing as a response to the original provocation.

    That feeling is not a guilty pleasure.

    Edit:  change do to done This post was edited by tom jackson at March 21, 2018 3:46 PM MDT
      March 21, 2018 2:04 PM MDT
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  • 3375
    I have had the pleasure of shutting someone right down that thought they deserved another chance to be a jerk.  It's call self preservation and I no longer feel guilty for wanting it and keeping it.
      March 21, 2018 3:31 PM MDT
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  • 3463
    You have nothing to feel guilty about.
      March 21, 2018 3:41 PM MDT
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  • 3375
    I much prefer that scenario; where circumstances play out and someone gets a good taste of what they dish out.  

    One of the hardest things to do is have patience for it.  It usually happens.
      March 21, 2018 3:29 PM MDT
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  • 2658
    I don't take revenge.   Vengeance is 'HIS'...

    “Always forgive, but never forget, else you will be a prisoner of your own hatred and doomed to repeat your mistakes forever.”― Wil Zeus

    In taking revenge, a man is but even with his enemy; but in passing it over, he is superior.—Francis Bacon

    This post was edited by Beans/SilentGeneration at March 21, 2018 4:11 PM MDT
      March 21, 2018 1:18 PM MDT
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  • 3375
    I agree with this myself.  Thank-you Beans
      March 21, 2018 3:48 PM MDT
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  • 5808
    Love that GIF...really funny...
    so,
    I don't take revenge
    even though I am Very tempted
    in this case. A mechanic installed 
    a so called rebuilt engine in my truck.
    It started falling apart immediately.
    I went to him and He refused to be responsible
    and I ended up getting another engine
    from  someone else.
         $3,000 it cost me and he refused to be responsible...
    Said he couldn't deal with it because it was too stressful.
    So I had to put up another $3,000 (that I didn't have) dollars to get another engine.
         Sent him letters threatening to take him to small claims court
    Gave him a deal, even with monthly payments...He refused.
         You don't know how many times I have thought
    about putting nails under his tires...but haven't.
    whenever I see him and he looks my way
    I flip him off with the finger...
         Don't have time for the small claims court
    sure, with time I will be able to let this go
    and move on but right now
    can't pay taxes because of this
    in a hole
    and am pissed
    ok...I vented
    peace out...



    This post was edited by Baba at March 21, 2018 5:08 PM MDT
      March 21, 2018 1:40 PM MDT
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  • 3463
    One of the things I like to do to people like is bad mouth them. Go on Yelp and other sites that may be looking for a mechanic and tell them about that guy.
    A bad review can really hurt.
      March 21, 2018 2:00 PM MDT
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  • 7280
    That is not revenge.  There is nothing wrong with requiring someone to be accountable for their actions; and it is entirely appropriate to warn others of possible danger.
      March 21, 2018 2:19 PM MDT
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  • 3463
    Thanks Tom, I have found that the pen is mightier then the sward.
    Or computer in my case.
      March 21, 2018 3:07 PM MDT
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  • 3375
    Absolutely!  The more details you can give, the more credible the complaint.  I really despise any contractor or service person that does this to a trusting customer.  They really DO deserve a kick in the pants by mother Karma!
      March 21, 2018 3:56 PM MDT
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  • 3375
    That is terrible Baba and I gotta tell you, he certainly deserves to pay for what he did to you.  I do understand that sometimes we cut our losses and walk away.  But don't be shy on turning him in to the BBB and writing a few detailed bad reviews.  He will continue to do this to other customers and I do think we have some obligation to warn others.  

    I hope some how you do get financial resolution to this.  I know things like this have happened to me in the past and it's very upsetting.  Good luck.
      March 21, 2018 3:54 PM MDT
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  • 2658
    Good things are going to happen. Keep the faith and stay positive.
      March 21, 2018 5:08 PM MDT
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  • 7280
    Love those penguins---LOL


      March 21, 2018 1:59 PM MDT
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  • 3375
    Thank-you!  I laughed too when I found them to post here.  
      March 21, 2018 3:57 PM MDT
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  • 7280
    Revenge, no; but some actions and thoughts should not be allowed to stand.  Such incidents should be either challenged or prevented from further occurrence.
      March 21, 2018 2:02 PM MDT
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  • 3375
    Completely agree!  I don't always sit silent either.  There are many times where we have a duty to speak up and speak out.
      March 21, 2018 7:01 PM MDT
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  • 7280
    TRUE !!!
      March 22, 2018 2:40 PM MDT
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