Discussion»Questions»Relationships» Have you been completely open and honest about your past with your partner or would-be partner, or are there secrets you dare not reveal?
Not sure what that means. I think we can be "open and honest" enough about who we are without having to be completely so. How much would they even be interested in anyway? I reject the idea that somehow you have to sit down and somehow go through your whole life with someone. All fifty years of it? After all we are the living and breathing result of our experiences as it is.
I have never lied about anything to anyone. Nor have I ever felt the need to tell absolutely everything. Some men are curious and if they ask about things I tell them but I find after they have learned as much as they want to know they do stop asking. Because many things they just don't want to hear about and that is natural.
When I met my husband I was very upfront about who I was and had been because I felt our potential bond was strong enough that it was very important him to know me both the good and the bad. I do feel I was too forward in exposing him to my lifestyle and trying to make him a part of it because I think some of it was more than he wanted to handle at that time. Or any time. I guess in a way I was testing him to see if he could accept the real me. And even a me that was not so "real" as much as I thought. But anyway he knows all the basic and even shocking stuff some of which I am sure he would have been happier not knowing. But I have not told him everything nor do I intend to not does he have any desire to know those things or most of them.
