I'm thinking about the new Facebook feature allowing "crowd funding". I've seen people use it asking others to help fund their birthday party or vacation. LOL
Just because they're voluntary doesn't mean they aren't a scam. After all, nobody has to give money to those Nigerian emails (or wherever they're from, now). Scam = dishonest scheme, fraud, swindle.
Now, there are 2 things that could make the difference between those requests being legit and a scam. 1 - They don't use the money for what they claim to be asking. EG: They say it's for medical care, but use it to party. 2 - The story they tell is a lie. EG: I can't afford a vacation because I had to pay my child's emergency medical care for cancer, and we had a trip planned for Disneyland and now our family can't go.
I'm sorry, but I can't feel sorry for someone who contributes to the birthday party of someone they don't know. Yes, there are scams that prey on the most vulnerable and those are deplorable.
You know, my mom had a big heart. She wasn't stupid yet she often contributed to causes that I knew to be questionable. She felt good about helping people even if she didn't know them. I guess I look at other people the way I looked at my own mother.
We see things a bit differently. I don't think a birthday party is sufficient reason to help someone out. Now, if you said it's due to illness or death to bury someone, maybe I could see that, but not a birthday party.