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What non-sexual things should be considered cheating in a relationship?

Posted - July 19, 2018

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  • 7939
    Hee hee. I'm a bit rusty, but thanks. :)
      July 19, 2018 10:35 PM MDT
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  • 5614
    Having lunch every day with a coworker of the opposite sex and talking about private issues?
      July 19, 2018 10:32 PM MDT
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  • 44617
    No way. To me that is perfectly acceptable.
      July 24, 2018 6:25 AM MDT
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  • 5614
    Obsessive texting and finding frivolous reasons to communicate with someone outside of the relationship. This post was edited by O-uknow at July 24, 2018 6:26 AM MDT
      July 19, 2018 10:45 PM MDT
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  • 44617
    Then coming here and going to private chat with someone of the opposite sex is cheating? Or me calling a female friend to vent or have her vent?
      July 24, 2018 6:27 AM MDT
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  • 6098
    Had no idea, before I started in net chat groups nine years ago, just how obsessed so many people seem to be with "cheating".  Which term suggests to me, on the one hand,  playing some kind of game and not following the "rules" of that game.  And, on the other, a desperate finally  futile effort at trying to control the behavior of others.   Seems to me that in a close relationship we are naturally going to fear anything that think will or does threaten the security which we derive from that relationship and so it is there things we tend to deem "cheating". So would pretty much run with whatever our fears are.  Much of my life I saw myself as rather too plain and ordinary that anyone would really ever want to commit to me for anything longer term than say a year or so. So I was pleased with anything that was steady and rewarding that did come my way but felt it would not be very lasting because I was just not interesting enough so they would eventually become bored with me and naturally start to pull away.  At which point, when I could feel that, I would most always put an end to it.  When I knew they were either not so interested in me any longer or were more interested in others. Which of course made my relationship no longer secure.  For me it mostly came down to their spending lass and less time with me and more and more with others which was pretty obvious.  So I guess it is like if I can no longer be #1 then I no longer want to play. 
      July 20, 2018 7:55 AM MDT
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  • 44617
    You were actually #1 to somebody? I am envious. The closest I ever came to that is my dog.
      July 24, 2018 6:30 AM MDT
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  • 22891
    going on dates even if you didnt have sex
      July 22, 2018 4:19 PM MDT
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  • 22891
    going out with sonneone thats already nnarried
      August 7, 2018 3:41 PM MDT
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