Discussion»Questions»Entertainment» How would you handle a social event you can't leave & the hostess demanding all the attention to her with you having to back her up?
I have not encountered a social event I could not leave. I am far too cynical to prop up an attention whore.
This post was edited by Don Barzini at September 5, 2018 12:26 PM MDT
If whore means prostitute it makes no sense. There's no trade. The attention seeker sucks the bored, unwilling and polite attention of others but gives nothing in return.
If the word "whore" is used in the sense of "slut" - does it mean the attention seeker is indiscriminate in who they monologue at or perform for?
I’m not a fan of social gatherings unless I know and like the majority of the people there. I never have a problem leaving. I leave when I’m ready. It’s not my job to, nor my desire to support attention whores. They’re on their own.
This post was edited by Rizz at September 5, 2018 12:27 PM MDT
I am cracking up because I just love the fact you said "attention whores." It's funny because she is one. I feed into it because I am who I am. A trait I need to stop. Love ya Rizz! :) :)
Love ya too, Merlin. Part of me being brutally honest is I don’t reenforce negative traits in people. I call them out on them. I have no time or patience for attention whores.
I was too passive, and simply did everything asked of me. My role was to prepare the chai, the elaborate feast, set the funeral pyre, buy and arrange the flowers, and set up the sound system and electrics. It turned out to be the stage for Kunti to perform a series of her songs in which she was the centre of attention for everyone for about an hour before the satsang, ceremonies and finally the lighting of the pyre. Afterwards, I cleaned up while she monologued at the guests.
At that time, I was not yet wise to her game.
These days, if someone acts like an attention hog, after 6 minutes I find a polite excuse to leave, and thereafter avoid that person.
This post was edited by inky at September 5, 2018 12:33 PM MDT
I volunteer some time (which is rare but someTIMEs there is some) and we have threatened to get a 3-minute egg timer. If you want to monopolize my time, you have 3 minutes. Make your words count! I love it Nom de Plume! Thanks :) :)
Unfortunately, my car was stuck at Ralphs. I was at her mercy until I remembered I could have Don come pick me up, which he did, happily. He also fixed my car. I won't even tell you why it got stuck at Ralphs. It is way too embarrassing. Thanks Shuhak. :) :)
A victim of my demise. She offers us something we both like at such a cost we can't help but kiss her a$$ sometimes. I know I have the power to stop it but we chose not to. It is my own fault. If only I would make the decision to quit the habit, I would, in turn, not be in her power. :) :)
Not sure what social nicety or article of etiquette would oblige me to back her up. I would simply stay out of her way. Some people are always after attention but that can take a number of forms and they would not necessarily have to plan an event to achieve that but they get attention at any event. I am more the kind of person who helps with the cooking and setting up and sometimes the service but I see no reason to try and assert myself.
I do the same! Even as a guest, I bring wine and flowers and Always offer (and end up doing) the dishes, the over-all cleaning, and helping by starting conversations and people who have difficulty in social events. It's hard when the hostess doesn't do any of these things to have a party run smoothly. I just don't want her to look as bad as she does or is sometimes. Ugh!
For the most part, I've reached the age where I no longer feel compelled to attend events I don't want to attend and I don't do drama, so I would either not be at that event in the first place or have no compunction about leaving should the hostess embark on a dramatic endeavor.
Drama it is. Don is the same way. I feel I have to protect her from her wicked self sometimes. It is my own doing. Maybe if I stopped protecting her, she would realize she isn't "all that." Thanks SpunkySenior. :) :)
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