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If you are accused of a SEX CRIME don't you invite investigation of your sex life especially at the time of the alleged assault ?

Posted - September 30, 2018

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  • 6477
    I am going to play devil's advocate on this one.. no, most people wouldn't invite that.. mainly because it can paint us in an unfavourable light..  This is where the devil's advocate bit comes in.. here in Britland we have had a fair bit of debate around whether the victim's sexual history and current activity should be considered as part of the evidence. My opinion is no... because it wouldn't matter if a woman were a prostitute, she should still have the right to say no and should still be protected from rape. 

    If we are to follow that line then in theory the man's sex life at the time/past isn't relevant either? Or is it? If he had a history of raping that would be relevant? I struggle with this one.. not really sure
      September 30, 2018 12:16 PM MDT
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  • 682
    Somehow I don't think people selling their bodies are doing so because they like sex. It tends to be because life gave them a bad hand and they never had another option. In other words, I'd wager that the vast majority of them are what you'd call vulnerable, abused, at risk, poor, from broken homes, mentally-ill. They trade sexual services for money (or home, protection, food and the like) and they can accept of reject. They are the victims.

    On the other hand, someone who has sex against another's will is the perpetrator of rape.

    Fun fact: rapists don't always use 'rape' to describe what they do, even when they know fully well the wrong that is involved, or that the victim could never have had any say no matter what.
      September 30, 2018 8:33 PM MDT
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  • 6098
    Your cult of the victim ignores the fact the many of us have and do choose to work as an escort because we DO like sex and are good with it.  Contrary to what you may like to think we are not all "poor", "abused", from "broken" homes, "mentally ill" etc. .

    Not fun fact:  one of the jurors at my rape trial told the press that my rapist was only "trying to give me a good time". 

      October 10, 2018 8:31 AM MDT
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  • 682
    Erm yeah, I reckon that's the exception of the rule. Why should millions have to suffer because of what you like?

    On the fact you said that's pretty brutal but a somewhat common justification or downplaying of rape.
      October 10, 2018 6:49 PM MDT
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  • 6098
    Not sure just what I like causes millions to suffer. 

    Guy who raped me who was prosecuted got off because I could not recognize his face.  That was in 1978.  
      October 10, 2018 8:33 PM MDT
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  • 113301
    Thank you for your thoughtful reply Addb. If you're innocent why would you fear the truth? Hopefully that would be the goal of any investigation. I know that guilty people walk and innocent people are incarcerated. I wonder how often that injustice occurs? I'm gonna ask.
      October 1, 2018 4:20 AM MDT
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  • 3463
    If I were innocent I would have no problem with them investigating me.
    Only guilty people would protest to that.
      September 30, 2018 1:28 PM MDT
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  • 113301
    PRECISELY!  Me too. Thank you for your reply Lulu'sMom and Happy Monday! :)
      October 1, 2018 4:21 AM MDT
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  • 5391
    I call my lawyer for guidance to protect my rights. 
      September 30, 2018 7:37 PM MDT
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  • 113301
    What would be the second thing you'd do DB? Would you just be a docile client and follow his/her advice or would you insist demand request investigations to PROVE your innocence? Thank you for your reply! :)
      October 1, 2018 4:23 AM MDT
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  • 5391
    As it is more important for the accuser to prove my guilt, I would defer to the legal expertise of my attorney. 
      October 1, 2018 6:19 AM MDT
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  • 113301
    Thank you for your reply DB. Hopefully your attorney would be way loads lots better than any of those advising super don!  :)
      October 1, 2018 6:21 AM MDT
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  • 53509

      No, not at all. Investigating my entire sex life is an overreach. Investigate the alleged crime itself, that's all that's necessary. 
      September 30, 2018 7:45 PM MDT
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  • 6098
     I have been talking my private life for years but I guess no one is interested since I have never been accused of a crime. 
      October 10, 2018 8:20 AM MDT
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