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At what age should a child be told that s/he is adopted?

Posted - June 9


  • 36249

    It should be a loud rap song created by the mother and played all nine months to the fetus, before adoption begins.

    You are gonna be adopted yo



    USE IT 

    BE IT

    You know, something like that to make the kid a warrior.  

      June 9, 2019 9:41 AM MDT

  • 431
    As early as possible. Children are capable of handling a lot more than some people believe.

    My dad was adopted and so was a good friend of mine. It only becomes a head trip when it's kept from them for years and they find out when they're much older.
      June 9, 2019 10:10 AM MDT

  • 474
    You should tell them as soon as they can understand what it means or chaos will probably ensue. 
    Kids look up to their parents (in most cases) and they put their trust in them. 
    If parents lie to them, trust is broken and the kids could end up hating them. This post was edited by Natz at June 10, 2019 3:48 AM MDT
      June 9, 2019 10:46 AM MDT

  • 3360
    The first time they really piss you off....
      June 9, 2019 11:29 AM MDT

  • 36249
    I like it.  
      June 9, 2019 11:41 AM MDT

  • 4834
    I was about 23
    when my 2nd step mom
    sent me the adoption papers.
    But I knew when I was about
    21 and in India. I had taken a Past life
    Regression and discovered i was a throw away baby.
    Going back to when my mom placed me in a cardboard box
    and left me at a Bus station. I was literally in that
    box with all of those big people standing around the box,
    looking down at me. I was screaming in fear.
         Why was I in the box and not above it looking down
    on it? Because my guide was focused on the other person
    in the session. When I was screaming it interrupted the whole session
    and my guide was pissed. After I explained the situation
    he apologized for not keeping me above and looking down on it.
         As for as to when the person should be told
    they were adopted... when the child still has respect for the current 
    parents and can absorb and understand the news and the enormous love
    of their current parents in wanting to give so much love to the child.
      June 9, 2019 12:22 PM MDT

  • 171
    Mom ... Is that you?
      June 9, 2019 3:45 PM MDT

  • 1681
    I would do it as early as possible, and as they grow older, help them to better understand what it means.
    I would attempt to get as much info as possible about the original parents and the reason for the adoption, and I'd let them know the whole truth as soon as they were old enough to ask.
    If some of the details were potentially unpleasant, I'd find ways to help them understand that it is no reflection on who the child is and who he or she might become.
    I believe kids can handle truth much better than most adults realise.
    And I believe that a commitment to honesty from the beginning is the best way to build trust and teach integrity, acceptance and a sane approach to life.
    The kid may wish to meet their biological parents when they grow up - and the path should be prepared that such a project requires tact and diplomacy and that for a wide range of reasons some parents might refuse contact.
    With modern medicine the way it is, knowing one's genome may one day be essential to solving any inherited susceptibilities.
      June 9, 2019 7:06 PM MDT