This is a statement someone uses when they are too lazy to tell you what "it" is. When they don't think you will understand what "it" is. Or When they don't want to go into detail and won't take the time.
Personally, I am not fond of this newly adopted phrase into our communication world.
A man goes to his doctor. His face is all beat up and the doc asks, "What happened to you." Man says, "Well I was in Church and this fat lady in front of me stood up and her dress was stuck in her butt crack, so I pulled it out."
A week later, same man goes to see his doc and his face is worse than the week before. Doc asks what happened. "Well, I sat on the other side of the Church this week and don't you know that same lady sat down in the pew front of me. When she stood up, her dress was stuck in her butt. The guy next to me saw it and pulled it out and I, knowing she didn't like that, put it back in."
I find this a VERY helpful statement and I find it very true.
And it's a phrase that someone like me NEEDS to remember. Often.
You see, I have been diagnosed with Generalized Anxiety Disorder. I can be mentally flying around in Worry Land and Anxiety Land often. And this phrase often reminds me that the circumstances - - they are what they ARE -- they are NOT what I MAKE UP/FABRICATE in my mind so easily and quickly. And then I ruminate about those dire circumstances that I made up.
To remember that circumstances are simply what they are, NOT what I made up - - that is of EXTREME help to me.
I stand beside this phrase. It helps me. And for that, I'm grateful.
Another phrase that helps - - "Don't believe everything you think." (Again, because I have a very fertile imagination and, unfortunately, I can allow it to go to places that are illogical and not based upon facts. Again, "It is what it is" helps me remember what the FACTS are of the circumstances or situations. If I rely on the facts, I can fight back at my irrational fabricated fears.
I'll get off my soap box now. :)
This post was edited by WelbyQuentin at June 23, 2019 10:23 PM MDT
Ah ha. That makes more sense. I also have anxiety for which I used to take some very addicting drugs. I got off of those with great difficulty. Maybe, now that I understand it better, it will help me too.
Merlin 