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Have U given up hope? Find a Dream and hold on to it, for which is greater, Hope or Hopelessness? One heals, one destroys. R U Hopeful?

Posted - June 26, 2019

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  • 46117
    I am, very.   I don't eat poison to expect health.  

    If you want positive, you have to act,  think and be happy; fake it if you have to,  and there is the GIFT.  HAPPINESS.

    If I go to work filled with my resentments and try and do a good job for my clients, it is stealing.  It does not work.  They paid me for my best and I need to perform. I am grateful for this exchange.  I honor my clients and want to help them feel better.  They, in turn, allow me to feel joy and confidence in the fact that they trust me; so, therefore, we both benefit.

    That is an exchange worth working for.  I have no better proof of the positive than thinking of someone else and wanting to unselfishly do your best.  I try to live there in that space when I am at work and it is VERY painful and humiliating when I screw that up.  So, I try to stay focused.


    This post was edited by WM BARR . =ABSOLUTE TRASH at June 26, 2019 11:38 AM MDT
      June 26, 2019 11:35 AM MDT
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  • I know you are hopeful.  I can see it in the way you express your feelings about things.  You have a fight in you because you know all is not yet lost.  You posses a knowing deep within that things can, and often should be, better than they are and that if we all try. if we all hope, we will achieve greatness.  Not material, worldly superiority. but an apex of the spirit.  Something more than human, something akin to the divine.  Keep believing and keep fighting, speaking truth and speaking love. 
      June 26, 2019 11:53 AM MDT
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  • 2836
    Despite my flaws, I am always hopeful.
    Maybe that is a flaw unto itself; being hopeful and not recognizing hoplessness.
    I refuse to let myself appear foolish but despite that refusal, I will always remain hopeful.
    Even against overwhelming odds, I am hopeful.
    Maybe I'm dense and don't get it when common sense speaks to the contrary.
    Is that a bad thing?
    Is it ever a bad thing to deny hoplessness?
    I believe so...
     
    This post was edited by Jon at June 26, 2019 12:13 PM MDT
      June 26, 2019 11:59 AM MDT
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  • If it is a flaw to refuse lending credence to negativity, and instead only lend props to those things that bring joy, or love, or peace, within and without...then that is a flaw worth having.  Worth flaunting.  And certainly worth spreading.  Let's make HOPE a contagion.  You are patient zero.  Breathe in hope and blow out faith, everywhere.   
      June 26, 2019 12:10 PM MDT
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  • 2836
    Do you have "Hope", TwinkleDink?
    Let me blow it all over you


    This post was edited by Jon at June 26, 2019 12:19 PM MDT
      June 26, 2019 12:15 PM MDT
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  • Trust me...I know what your sneezes mean.  LOL!
      June 26, 2019 12:19 PM MDT
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  • 2836
    You sure can pick em, huh? LOLOLOL


      June 26, 2019 12:37 PM MDT
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  • 4624
    From experience, I can say that holding on to a dream doesn't work.
    The dream has to be something that is possible at a practical level.
    I worked enormously hard, pouring all my resources and energy into projects that no one has ever succeeded at.

    If someone must choose a dream to cling to, at least do thorough and honest research first, to discover what's possible and what's required.
    A failed dream can be a major cause of depression.

    There are other ways to deal with despair.
    I've also suffered 5 major depressions.
    While therapy helped, Vipassana meditation and a self-created form of CBT worked best.

    Depression is the result of multiple negative internal forms of self-talk - difficult because they've become entrenched and habitual.
    One has to learn to catch those thoughts as they occur - remind oneself they are not constructive or helpful - and divert the mind to something more positive in the present moment - an activity which helps towards goals - or something comforting like a hot shower or a walk in a beautiful place or time with animals or a friend.
    Avoid codependent friends, they mean well but end up making things worse by not really listening, piling on the "you shoulds" and trying to be Mr or Ms Fix-it.
    It's a long hard journey to learn how to climb out of the Mire-of-Despond - but well worth it.

    The above does not apply if someone is bipolar - that needs constant professional help with monitoring the body's natural lithium fluctuations.


    Mud Suck Mind

     

     

    Go fearward.

    On mud this mind is built.

    Thought formations float the surface,

    likely at any wrong step to sink stuck.

    A field of ideas like tall reeds dense packed,

    seed-heads reaching skyward,

    tethered by stems to roots in the mire.  

    Black, wet, stagnant, oozing muck,

    sticky squelching, putrid belching, dragging down.

    Panic to escape.

    Seek a foot sized island,

    a dry stacked mesh of trampled reeds,

    the most rotten footing better than none at all.

    Anything to make a

                                    step forward 

                                                          possible.

    ©Manna Hart, Tyalgum, Tues, 27.1.14



      June 26, 2019 3:34 PM MDT
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  • 4624
    Thank for the pick, Twinkle. :)

    If you are who I think you are,
    it seems you have learned the art of realistic goals and dreams while young,
    and the arts of loving and fun without destructive risks.
    Such blessings! :)
      July 1, 2019 3:36 PM MDT
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