I just am very shy, and a guy wanted to hear my voice, after we were quite flirty and connected, but I do have anxiety dating, and with men in general. I declined... I just am not a phone person at All. He understood, but I know was a bit bummed. Would you just accept talking on the phone after only one chat?
After only one chat????
No.
Definitely not. Make the phone connection when it feels right.
no, not after just one chat. i would have to feel i knew the person very well over an extended period of time.
i'm not saying 'your guy' is, but most guys are just looking for some free phone sex. so... watch out for that.
No. Chat for a long time then talk on the phone. Do not send pictures of your naked body. I'm going to start telling everyone that since it seems that so many have no clue why that is such a bad idea. I'm not saying you would; I'm giving you what is to become my standard answer about this subject.
If he doesn't live close to you keep it to chatting unless you two have resources to make a distance relationship work through regular travel.
No...I would not. And if the chat turns into sexting...beware. Stop immediately.
I'd have to get to know someone a bit better first, after chatting for a while. I find phone calls hard in the beginning too. But that apprehension usually melts away quickly once you start talking.
Nope I would develop a bond first.
Thank you Pea *huggg
Well it did turn quite flirtatious..... and that's partly why he wanted to take it to phone to 'hear me' too.. but when I objected he said, 'well even just to chat/say hi'... but I was still nervous. I just feel other women would do it and I'm being overly shy.. ?
Thanks T :) I feel he 'may' try to ask me again , and it's not that i don't want to, it's simply I have always had anxiety about phone.. not just w/guys. I just wondered do women who are single just go right to a phone chat , or do they also want to keep it online for a while ? Ty so much for your tips :)
Heck no, that would be a crazy thing to do.
I'm not sure if you are serious or kidding :)
Not me. I did give a girl my number once (I actually did meet her) that I met online. The only reason I did it is because she was honest about her bi-curious motivation, and her position as an exec with the government. So, I knew a lot about her. She wanted to do the sext thing all the time. Hey girl, I'm at work, ain't nothing sexy going on here. Didn't last long.
Ty Tammyangel.. did you exchange/give her your # after a few chats, or several months or ? Yeah I just exchanged emails with the guy I liked (we had flirted quite a Lot...int the chat) , and he seemed so happy to talk again, yet I think b/c we didn't chat on phone, he just is going to the next :( I haven't heard back from him... although its not been too long.. but many guys I've chatted with, if I didn't go to Skype, phone or kik, they just never chatted/emailed back- it really is something and makes u feel down... but I guess someone will be out there :) ty Tammy
If I recall, it was after a few chats, then email, then #'s were exchanged. I'll be honest, I was prowling, so my motivations weren't exactly puritan, but she knew that. If there's a mutual understanding, then it's okay, but I wouldn't do it without at least knowing who you're getting involved with.
I wouldn't do a phone call, but I would probably Skype. You can Skype without the video, just audio. I have Skyped with several people on here, both male and female, and they were all pretty decent conversations.
OH that's cool.. I mean I did feel bad, but I think a lot might be like me, where even if you are in a very flirtatious chat, and someone now wants to hear your voice , you might hesitate, become shy... I think more women would do it maybe, but alos some have told me, no, if you don't know them that well, no matter what you are chatting about. I don't have skype audio or cam, but its more about that I'm conscious, of how I'd come off, while we were talking so flirty.... now I have a feeling I won't hear from him soon :/ I guess someone is out there who would still talk to me via text/email rather than only phone... ty Karen. Ps.. were you kind of crushing on any of the guys u chatted with, were u nervous when you took it to audio, or just thought, it doesn't have to go anywhere?
Why should you "feel bad"? You didn't do anything wrong, there's no obligation to speak with anyone, so if you don't want to, not only can you refrain from speaking with him, you certainly don't need to justify why you don't want to do it. You neither owe him a phone call nor an explanation.
~
=)
you're welcome. i hope it all works out great.
