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For you, how many positive comments can be negated by one negative comment? For me it is about 100.

I'm not talking about here, but in real life.

Posted - January 13, 2020
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  • 1502
    Oh, it's limitless; provided I wasn't already thinking of it myself. Then it becomes a matter of time. I tend to dig into the cause of the comment, but ultimately don't mind being that way.
      January 13, 2020 12:15 PM MST
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  • 10664
    All of them.  Unless, of course, they're constructive criticism... then about 25.
      January 13, 2020 1:30 PM MST
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  • 44653
    I hate the term 'constructive criticism'. Key word...criticism. My first wife used to do that a lot. Just another reason she is an ex.
      January 13, 2020 3:22 PM MST
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  • 10026
    And a positive choice to make her an ex.  That counts as a + 1.
    :) :)
      January 13, 2020 4:04 PM MST
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  • 10664
    I call it unwanted criticism.  If I wanted someones criticism I'd ask for it
      January 13, 2020 6:06 PM MST
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  • 44653
    Perfect.
      January 13, 2020 7:36 PM MST
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  • 10026
    Shuhak is on a roll tonight!  I agree with both of you!!
    :) :)
      January 13, 2020 8:00 PM MST
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  • 44653
    I never give constructive criticism. Only the regular kind.
      January 13, 2020 8:03 PM MST
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  • 10026
    Big Giggles!!
      January 13, 2020 8:04 PM MST
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  • It depends on who is giving the negative comments.
      January 13, 2020 1:31 PM MST
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  • 44653
    A wife.
      January 13, 2020 3:20 PM MST
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  • That could be a problem.

      January 14, 2020 3:15 AM MST
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  • 10026
    As Mrs. C said, it depends on who is giving the negative and how it is delivered.
    If it were someone whom I respected and admired, a person I trusted and shared my feelings with, the number would be catastrophic. 
    I thrive on positive energy. 
    However, in defense to the person who might find a flaw or two in my behavior or choices, when delivered in a reasonable and diplomatic fashion, I would take the observation with the opinion of opinion.
    This doesn't mean I would not break down and cry on the inside and on the outside, take it to another room and weep.
    It does mean I would try to stand up and appreciate what they were saying.
    I don't like to rub anyone the wrong way.  If I do, I try to make the appropriate changes and make the atmosphere flow smoothly. This post was edited by Merlin at January 14, 2020 3:15 AM MST
      January 13, 2020 4:12 PM MST
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  • 46117
    Think of the people who had fame and glory and were caught saying the N word.

    Paula Dean.
      January 13, 2020 4:30 PM MST
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  • 44653
    I hate the N word...my first wife said it often. NO. (Reason number two she is my ex.)
      January 13, 2020 7:38 PM MST
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  • 10026
    That makes +2 good reasons why it is good she is an ex.
    :) :)
      January 13, 2020 8:02 PM MST
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  • 46117
    ...also if ANYONE was caught saying even one thing Trump has blurted, they would be forever banned.  His base holds him up.  They are the wind beneath his crap-laden wings.
      January 13, 2020 4:32 PM MST
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  • And that about sums it up.  His base makes anything he says or does OK .... VERY SCARY!
      January 14, 2020 3:16 AM MST
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  • 783
    Negative comments don't negate positive comments for me. I tend to look on the bright side and give people the benefit of the doubt. 
      January 17, 2020 11:38 AM MST
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